Just sounding off really.....
My daughter (9, as yet to be diagnosed Aspergers) sometimes gets upset for no apparent reason. I try to be sympathetic and get her to tell me what's wrong, but she just pushes me away and tells me she doesn't want to talk about it. I said to her yesterday (but in a raised voice, as she was walking away in a strop) 'If you don't tell me what's upset you how can I help?' She shouted 'I don't want any help!'
It hurts that she won't talk to me, but then I lose my temper because she won't talk about what's upset her, which upsets her more. Then I feel really guity and I can't comfort her because then I'M the cause of the upset. 
Does that make sense?
I know it's hard for her to express what she's feeling, if only she would be able to tell me the cause of the upset. As a parent you hate to see your child hurting and all you want to do is 'make it better', but when all attempts are refused, it's hard.
