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Controlling urge to masturbate

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Hi, 

I spent a while trying to work out what to sensitively call this subject…. My son is 16 yrs old and has become quite obsessive about masturbating. At home he understands that his bedroom is his private place, the difficulties arise when on holiday. With less private space in an apartment etc…. he becomes ‘possessed’ with a need to masturbate.  This ends in huge meltdowns. Does anyone have any advice on how to help him control the urge….. ? We currently are unable to go away with him. 

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  • This is a difficult question. I dont have any solutions for you but I may be able to help explain the reasons for it. For a lot of us autistic people I think masturbation is not necessarily a sexual need, it is more of a sensory need. Does your son stim? Masturbation is almost like a form of stimming to us and the sensations from it block out anxiety and confusion for just a few minutes. It is a sensory comforting thing and not just driven by sexual needs

    I dont know if theres anything else he could replace it with, like another stim or something? Or maybe when you are on holiday you could designate one room of the apartment as a safe space for him to do it privately

    Hope some of this helps 

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  • This is a difficult question. I dont have any solutions for you but I may be able to help explain the reasons for it. For a lot of us autistic people I think masturbation is not necessarily a sexual need, it is more of a sensory need. Does your son stim? Masturbation is almost like a form of stimming to us and the sensations from it block out anxiety and confusion for just a few minutes. It is a sensory comforting thing and not just driven by sexual needs

    I dont know if theres anything else he could replace it with, like another stim or something? Or maybe when you are on holiday you could designate one room of the apartment as a safe space for him to do it privately

    Hope some of this helps 

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