My Daughter struggling to make friends tameside

Other NeuroDivergent children will recognise her form of communication. ADHD, Dyslexia and so on. My ADHD friends have an amazing ability to communicate with both "Au" and Neuro-Normative individuals. The way language functions with the Autistic Spectrum Difference happens because we are capable of thinking, perceiving and understanding our environment in different ways. We are one part of a whole collective in society. 100 years ago many of us would've just been a bit more geeky or introverted. 

As a mum, we want to help our children thrive! But just 'fitting' in with the normal crowd might actually become a burden, it can cause a great deal more stress than she can understand at this point in life. We might appear to be marginalised, but we can also use that margin with a healthy supportive family, to be observant and self-confident, to find our ground and a bit of wisdom long before our non-autistic peers will. 

Enjoy her imaginary friends! I had 2. 

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Herbestfriend said:

the other kids interrupting the 'flow' of how she wants the 'game' or task to progress I figure

Have a look at https://monotropism.org Interruptions can be like waking a sleepwalker. It's not a want.

First, it's rude to interrupt, this is a lesson we all need to learn. No one would dare interrupt a CEO or The Queen mid thought. I think it's justified to learn the structure of affording boundaries and helping assert them. It's also good to organise structured time for a thing, to follow through on what we do or to be thought-full with what we can expect to accomplish. Life will be a complex barrage of interruptions, whether from a missing password, lost keys, dishes that need doing, a thought that's haunting me, and so on. With children, it's helpful to let them know when they can finish their book or safetly engage in a thing and complete the progress without being forced to cut the process short. The Monotropic brain works different and it's our strength. If allowed to Flourish and if given the space to grow and nurture with this strength, we can thrive. 

Communication difficulty happens because we aren't using vocabulary and ambiguous symbols the same. And somehow other individuals who aren't NeuroDivergent pick this up subconsciously and it feels 'off' to them, but without something like a degree in psychology or neuroscience they can't quite explain it. As an adult, I've learned to integrate my intention, words and actions - become dependable and trustworthy to those I want to build relationships with. My principles might seem a little conservative, but I have long-term friendships and long standing clients. These tried values tend to coincide with Autistic traits. We might be a little more pragmatic but we can use a rich imagination to understand systems around us. We won't be able to filter out incoming signals the same, so we're prone to being overwhelmed but we can see the world a little more clearly. 

And our hyper-focus is desirable at a certain age. I wish I had found yoga when younger, but I did enjoy ballet and learning gymnastics on the balance beam. It set me up in life to be a little more intentional with my actions - all autistics could use these sort of classes when young. Perhaps you could find something, even judo, rock climbing or a type of theatre movement, a self-discipline which engages focus, and she might make a friend. One reliable friend is far better than a room of acquaintances. 

Other NeuroDivergent children will recognise her form of communication. ADHD, Dyslexia and so on. My ADHD friends have an amazing ability to communicate with both "Au" and Neuro-Normative individuals. The way language functions with the Autistic Spectrum Difference happens because we are capable of thinking, perceiving and understanding our environment in different ways. We are one part of a whole collective in society. 100 years ago many of us would've just been a bit more geeky or introverted. 

As a mum, we want to help our children thrive! But just 'fitting' in with the normal crowd might actually become a burden, it can cause a great deal more stress than she can understand at this point in life. We might appear to be marginalised, but we can also use that margin with a healthy supportive family, to be observant and self-confident, to find our ground and a bit of wisdom long before our non-autistic peers will. 

Enjoy her imaginary friends! I had 2. 

On this:

Herbestfriend said:

the other kids interrupting the 'flow' of how she wants the 'game' or task to progress I figure

Have a look at https://monotropism.org Interruptions can be like waking a sleepwalker. It's not a want.

First, it's rude to interrupt, this is a lesson we all need to learn. No one would dare interrupt a CEO or The Queen mid thought. I think it's justified to learn the structure of affording boundaries and helping assert them. It's also good to organise structured time for a thing, to follow through on what we do or to be thought-full with what we can expect to accomplish. Life will be a complex barrage of interruptions, whether from a missing password, lost keys, dishes that need doing, a thought that's haunting me, and so on. With children, it's helpful to let them know when they can finish their book or safetly engage in a thing and complete the progress without being forced to cut the process short. The Monotropic brain works different and it's our strength. If allowed to Flourish and if given the space to grow and nurture with this strength, we can thrive. 

Communication difficulty happens because we aren't using vocabulary and ambiguous symbols the same. And somehow other individuals who aren't NeuroDivergent pick this up subconsciously and it feels 'off' to them, but without something like a degree in psychology or neuroscience they can't quite explain it. As an adult, I've learned to integrate my intention, words and actions - become dependable and trustworthy to those I want to build relationships with. My principles might seem a little conservative, but I have long-term friendships and long standing clients. These tried values tend to coincide with Autistic traits. We might be a little more pragmatic but we can use a rich imagination to understand systems around us. We won't be able to filter out incoming signals the same, so we're prone to being overwhelmed but we can see the world a little more clearly. 

And our hyper-focus is desirable at a certain age. I wish I had found yoga when younger, but I did enjoy ballet and learning gymnastics on the balance beam. It set me up in life to be a little more intentional with my actions - all autistics could use these sort of classes when young. Perhaps you could find something, even judo, rock climbing or a type of theatre movement, a self-discipline which engages focus, and she might make a friend. One reliable friend is far better than a room of acquaintances.