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HELP! needed about school and statmenting

mummyrob

Hi!!

My son was diagnosed at 3 years old with ASD. He is now 6 and attends a main stream school. My son is high frequency but struggles with social and he is also still in nappies for both bladder and bowl. I fought for his school to attend to his needs but they are saying he is doing well in school and cannot have a statment, but they won be able to change his nappy for much longer! but then the refuse a statement. My son is very good at keeping in his feelings until he gets home then he is very emotinal and violent. He says he hates school much i am dragging him there which is not good and i just wat him to be happy. Has anyone had the same problem?

 

Thanks

  • Hi there - we have been through the process of applying for, and successfully getting, a statement for our son. We wrote to the council and the process began - it has been quite harrowing as you really have to focus on all the challenges/negative sides of their issues. Be prepared for this and focus on the outcome. As soon as we contacted West Berks, they were amazing and took charge of the situation. They also guided us regarding schools that could best meet the needs of our son and have provided funding for 1-2-1 support for him. Personally, I do not want to home school him as I feel school offers him so much more than I can and it also means that I can work and maintain my own sense of self and self esteem but this is a very personal choice and every parent knows what suits their child and them best. The statementing process was difficult but brilliant for us as a family and I would contact your local authority if this is a procedure you want to initiate. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck.

  • Hi There!

    It seems to me you have two seperate issues really firstly the toiletting and then his unhappiness at school.

    My six year old high functioning hates school and we had battles getting him to go.  He would get really stressed with anything new that was being planned at school days before the event.  HE SEEMED TO BE COPING AT ScHOOL clever always smiling, but that was his front for other people as he is very keen to please (i am told this is more common in high functioning kids) but he would cry befoe school and ask not to go.  I would phone school two or three times a week over one thing or another and because my son outwardly looked ok they did not take his sensory issues or anxiety seriously .  i think they thought i was the problem and was making it all up!  Anyway we have just applied for homeschooling as i felt i was wasting alot of my time with the school, my son is overjoyed at the prospect i have my concerns but am eager to give it a go as i cannot bear to see him in distress.  You have to try ad find out (not easy i know) why he dislikes school , is it down t the toiletting issues?

    If you want to continue with school the other ladies are right apply for the statement yourself.  Someone pointed out to me on this site actually that my son may suffer with constipation as he sometimes does due to his anxiety linked with school and the pressure there, it certainly makes things more difficult.  Your son is letting off steam at home because he has been bottling it all up all day!!  but you probably already know that.  Get a referral to a peadeatrician for the toiletting issues as well as considering a statement and indeed if school is the right place for your son you could always take him out for a year or six months and see how things go, if there are any improvements less stress for example, school will always be there next year! not the easiest route for the parents of course but one to consider i think?

    Good luck

    Puffin

  • Hi - do as mum of 3 says + apply for a statement,  He needs support at school.  I've read of a lot of children with autism who appear to cope at school + then let it all out at home - check out the posts on here to find out more.  Have you thought of checking out other schools in your area, inc autism specific ones?  Always worth a look - cd make a big difference to his daily life in all sorts of positive ways.