What to do about work?

Hi, nice to meet everyone.

Was hoping for some help and guidance. My son is in the process of being diagnosed with adhd and autism, he has been diagnosed by a doctor and a specialist advisor at his school but needs to be assessed by a social worker before we can get an official diagnosis. Me and my partner have separated because he couldn't deal with it, so I've been left to deal with this myself. I also have a 6 year old little boy. At the moment I'm currently working part time in a call centre 5-6 days a week. I'm really struggling at the moment to deal with my son and also go to work. I'm constantly getting calls from his school, his speech therapist, social worker and childcare centre all of the time whilst I'm at work. Unfortunately in my work place I'm not allowed to have my phone out and not allowed to use it, eventhough I have explained my situation with my son. I'm struggling to balance everything and it's causing me to become unwell from all of the stress. Problem is, if I come out of work we can't afford to survive. We have no family and no one to help.

How are other parents dealing with this?

How are you able to make everything work?

Any help or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

  • The Hippies and Counterculture types usurped Government, from within, to implement Cultural Marxism. All to makes us 'Merican. 

  • Thanks for your help, I'll contact citizens advice and see if they can offer any help.

  • I'd recommend you take some advice from the citizens advice people. 

    This triggers me enormously.

    Our society has just made it so that looking after your children properly, places you at an enormous financial disadvantage. 

    We reward those who start wars and recessions handsomely, those who trick or manipulate people into buying things they don't need also quite well,  and anyone who provides any sort of pastoral care or maintenance of vital services, very poorly indeed.  

    C.A.B. MIGHT be able to help you access some of the dubious financial benefits they say are available to people who are struggling, or they may be able to help you get a better paid job.

    Here's a fact they never tell you, the better paid jobs, ALWAYS treat you better, and with more respect than the lowest paid jobs, and the work is generally easier to do. 

    The trick, is finding one where the actual work isn't unpleasant or morally repugnant, and which they will allow you to do... Every single time I found one I thought I could stick with, the bloody company got took over and the culture changed for the worse. I've never seen a buyout or merger or reorgansation happen where anything got better. (I'm hoping someone will call me out and tell me how it isn't ALWAYS like that). 

    If the bloody normies were not "under the cosh" all the time and looking for a vent for their resentment of how things are these days, our lives would be easier, I can tell you. 

    When I've finally figured out how everything works, and what the basic inflexible rules of life really are, I intend to form an extreme rightwing party, based on being always right.

    Just that concept alone guarantees me fifty percent of the vote! (He said making a sexist joke that works for both sexes, but will go over the heads of many "genders"..) 

    The previous efforts people have made to establish a righteous reich have ended disastrously, I am well aware, and many will be "triggered" by the concept of a party that calls itself Always Right, but this constant squabbling and arguing, and changing the nature of our government radically at the drop of a hat business isn't really working, for the majority of us. None of us can trust our govenrment, believing as we do that only when "our" party gets in will our interests be recognised, when in actual fact, it;s clear that apart from keeping us occupied, our current crop of leaders have other fish to "spirit cook". 

    Until however I have figured out exactly how to organise a party that leads to a government that gives each and every one of the "righteous" people like yourself a decent crack at life, and yet also allows disruptive and antisocial people like I used to be (and tendrils remain) to also have a fair crack at life without being rounded up and imprisoned or killed. 

    In the matter of left wing versus right wing politics, BOTH claim to represent the will of the majority of the people and then set out to exclude (by a dizzying range of techniques from cancelling to mass murder) the other SIDE. 

    The Always Right Party (A.R.P. - a memorable TLA, that's good) will just have to be right for all of course, which means no killing  or excluding, except the self exclusion that comes when you aren't on the right side of things....

    LIKE I said, in line 2, This triggers me, Apologies to the O/P if I have taken a liberty with your thread, (line 1 though, is helpful)  and if anyone is offended by my semi political thoughts on the matter, or this long O/T post in general, just ask either publically or via P.M and I'll pull it. 

  • Hi, I am also fully on my own to work and manage the hectic schedule of my son: school, therapies and disruptions. The only way I found so far is home office with a flexible working schedule, it is getting more common in certain jobs... A friend of mine has taken an aupair, more flexible than a babysitter and less expensive but that requires to have an extra room and the lack of intimacy that goes with it. It is difficult to find a long lasting proper solution, sometimes reconsidering every part of the agenda helps in finding a new out of the box solution. Have you tried to tell therapists, school etc that you are totally unavailable from x to x? Sometimes we also have to set our survival limits and ask others to find ways in helping us in maintaining them without feeling guilty!