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Move school or not ??

stacey1471

Hi, 

haven't been on to post for a long time, but my son has HFA diagnosis, he is Y1 at the mo.  His main issues are social, all aspects of this. He is a very emotional boy. He is quite bright but finds it hard to keep upo with class as gets very distracted and then gets paniky.

Anyways, throughout reception his mainstream school did a great job he came on loads as in the begg he couldn't cope with school at all. Y1 however hasen't been that great, in class he is a teachers pleaser, and gets on ok. But socially they dont help him nearly enough, he has one friend that he will only play with if he is playing IT, and most of the other children he will cover his ears and hide from in playground before n after school. 

if he doesnt play IT with his friend then he will just walk around on his own watching people or sometimes says i wanted to play but didnt know how or what to say.

So i have had countless chats with teacher and senco he is school action + (not ststemented)

they feel he is coping fine, he has zero support on the playground, and seems the little they do do is very inconsistant. i have recently viewed another school spoken to head teacher and senco there, they have said that they would give my son 1to1 on they playground without a statement then access his needs. 

They seemed to understand his needs and have a better idea of how to support him, 

but the question is, is this enough of a reason to move him... ???? 

my son is very emotional and obvs isnt great with change..

His views are 'i love my sool sooo much and i would miss him loads'. he really isnt keen on moving him. 

i dont want to make the wrong decision??

ive also viewed a special schhol but seems there is no @ideal@ school for HFA children, seems special school isnt quite right but have much more knowledge and mainstream isnt right either. 

Thanks, any advice welcome x

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  • Hi

    I would echo everything Crystal12 has said. It's always a battle with schools so to find one where the Head and SENCO are supportive and able/willing to help your son is a massive step forward. Getting the right help early is crucial. Maybe you could both visit the school before the end of term a couple of times which would enable your son to experience it, get used to the other children and the surroundings before making a decision? (Just tell his present school you have an appointment somewhere, no need to tell them where!). I would apply for a statement regardless of whether you do end up moving your son or not, NAS will be able to advise you or your local Parent Partnership or IPSEA - all have websites. It would help the school with funding for your son and your son's specific needs will be assessed properly. Good luck, I hope the school year ends on a happy note for both of you ready for September.

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  • Hi

    I would echo everything Crystal12 has said. It's always a battle with schools so to find one where the Head and SENCO are supportive and able/willing to help your son is a massive step forward. Getting the right help early is crucial. Maybe you could both visit the school before the end of term a couple of times which would enable your son to experience it, get used to the other children and the surroundings before making a decision? (Just tell his present school you have an appointment somewhere, no need to tell them where!). I would apply for a statement regardless of whether you do end up moving your son or not, NAS will be able to advise you or your local Parent Partnership or IPSEA - all have websites. It would help the school with funding for your son and your son's specific needs will be assessed properly. Good luck, I hope the school year ends on a happy note for both of you ready for September.

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