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I feel like my child's school hides the kids with autism.

Pynx

Hello everyone, I just wanted to get some advice on what I should do about my child's school. There is a specalised class for kids with autism in a main stream primary that my child attends. I feel like all the kids are excluded from activities as far as I can tell. At Christmas there was a big things for all the other kids like nativities etc and we had to tune in on the schools channel on YouTube to have a look. They were encouraging parents to make a big deal and have popcorn and things at home as they weren't allowing parents in school at the time. So after the last day of term we all got together at home and there was not one thing for the kids with autism. I was left in tears because I felt really angry. All the news feeds is about all the neurotypical kids achievements with photos and all the good stuff that goes on in class ..nothing about the kids with autism. They were giving leaflets out at the school gates for after school activities but didn't give us one because my child has autism. The queen's jubilee was another example. Photo ops at the school gates but we were smiled at but not asked to be involved like everyone else. It just feels like the schools website is full of all the amazing things that all the other kids get involved with but the amazing children with autism are not celebrated for achieving anything or partaking in anything. I feel so upset by this and have mentioned it with no real response. I don't want my child to feel that the differences they have stops them doing things others do. I dont know where to get advice or what our rights are. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

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  • I think society might be going through a transitional time where no one knows what autism actually is and what to do. There's a bit of a general feeling of "damned if I do, damned if I don't". But not giving Autistic Children the option is probably also a result of not wanting to be cancelled like Sia for "Autism Moms" who are clueless about ABA and using their child to virtue signal. 

    Is it possible to create a community with the other parents of Autistic children and do something collective? I would just do this. It will possibly be better for everyone involved and will actually facilitate building real community. This would relieve pressure off kids who don't want to participate and might actually turn out much better than what the school would do anyway :) 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Thanks for the reply. I would love to get to know the other parents and maybe have an opportunity to chat through a coffee morning or something like that. Most of the children go home via taxi so I've only ever met 2 of the parents. The one didn't want to chat which is ok by me and the other lady seems very lovely and we do have a small chat when we are at the gates together. The class finishes earlier than school so I'm usually stood at the gate on my own. I do wish things could be very different for individuals on the spectrum . I have autism and I am proud of my individuality and my differences. I dont think it should be hidden as I feel it is being to some degree. 

  • in reply to Pynx

    I have a feeling they may not have anyone who understands autism for the production and rather than possibly take on a complex unknown situation that could potentially be overwhelming, may have found themselves frozen over what to do. Mind, this all needs to change. I'm trying to work on ways to make Autism easy to understand. 

    Society is funny. I have a gluten allergy and have noticed most places now just simply avoid having GF options as they've realised it's a serious health concern and not a 'lifestyle'. This is somewhat part of life. I just find my tribe and get on with things. 

    See if you can text the other parents and maybe take the children carolling together. Or arrange to sing around a tree or at a space everyone feels comfortable in.

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  • in reply to Pynx

    I have a feeling they may not have anyone who understands autism for the production and rather than possibly take on a complex unknown situation that could potentially be overwhelming, may have found themselves frozen over what to do. Mind, this all needs to change. I'm trying to work on ways to make Autism easy to understand. 

    Society is funny. I have a gluten allergy and have noticed most places now just simply avoid having GF options as they've realised it's a serious health concern and not a 'lifestyle'. This is somewhat part of life. I just find my tribe and get on with things. 

    See if you can text the other parents and maybe take the children carolling together. Or arrange to sing around a tree or at a space everyone feels comfortable in.

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