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New taxi

ParentingAutism

Last Friday, I tried phoning the home-school taxi service asking about taxis because now my daughter is 16 it all changes. I reapplied but missed out half my reasons so had to redo it because they said no to getting a taxi. Now, she is qualified but they haven't got one arranged. 

I have emailed the school explaining this and they replied saying that there are quite a few students who are having the same issue. School are picking her up and dropping her home until taxi is sorted. I also messaged her taxi driver who she had last school year and he said that my daughter isn't on his schedule anymore and will have a new driver. I haven't told her this yet because she's got enough anxiety starting back and having everything changed because of the taxi issue. 

How do I tell her? I know she won't be too upset about not having her morning driver, it's the anxiety about having someone knew. I don't know if her after school taxi has changed but I know she will be absolutely devastated if it has and it will change everything. She has a real connection with him and he has to be the best one out there!

Sorry for the long essay again but I am not good at telling her things and need some advice. I've never dealt with telling her something like this before.

  • in reply to Eve12

    I told her last night, told her to expect the worse and she was really upset and had a huge meltdown. She is struggling with the change back to school, new timetables, taxis not happening like normal, her trip to Thorpe Park coming up, and she doesn't know what's happening anymore and on top of it all she's tired. 

    I'm going to talk to school today explaining everything so they can help. I know that if he is the same one she will be over the moon but right now is a waiting game. 

  • That does sound difficult for you all. I used taxis for a while at secondary school but stopped in the end because the same driver I liked wasn't a guarantee. I think it's best for you to try and prepare her for this rather than tell her out right, that way she will sort of be ready if the driver has changed and if he hasn't then she of course will be really pleased. If he has changed then it's going to hit her hard, the change never comes easy when you have Autism. I think defos try to prepare her for the worst, make sure she's aware. Hopefully the same driver for afternoon is still available if not then there's not a lot you can really do. Might be worth trying to find a new one, one who will hopefully be available for her every time that's what my mum did for me.

    Much love x

  • She keeps asking when she'll have a taxi again and if it's the same drivers. I still don't know what's happening with one of them. Its all uncertain for her.