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Husband wants a divorce. How to tell my autistic adult son?

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My husband of 30 years has told me he wants a divorce. Our 21 year old son, who has Aspergers, still lives with us. We haven't told him yet. If the divorce goes ahead (even though I don't want it to happen), we will have to sell the house and probably move out of the area where my son has grown up and feels safe and secure. I only work part time so I can be available to support my son and I earn less than £1000 a month.  My husband is the main wage-earner. My son suffers from poor mental health and I am terrified the divorce and having to move house will push him over the edge into another bout of depression. 

Does anyone have any experience of a similar situation and be able to make suggestions surrounding how to tell my son if my husband does start proceedings and what financial support my husband may be asked to provide going forward? Even though child maintenance is not possible because he is 21, does his Autism mean he could get some maintenance? 

  • You should explain to him that you also deserve to be happy without his father

  • Sorry about your situation, it sounds horrible.

    Have you talked to citizen's advice? They may be able to advice you on your financial options if nothing more.

  • You need to get legal advice as soon as possible. If your son is incapable of supporting himself and you can argue that the upheaval of moving house would be very detrimental to his mental health, you might have legal grounds to argue for a settlement that allows you and your son to keep living in the house.

  • this ones probably best for professional services of some kind to answer.
    but given your low wage earner you could have always been eligable for some kinda of welfare top up for your wage anyway.

    the tough thing is trying to find a house, which is impossible... but not only that trying to find a rental place is also now impossible and not as easy as just finding a place and renting it out instantly.... finding a place to rent is as hard as a unemployable person trying to find a job, it will take years of failure and theres no actual social housing to help anymore either...