Toiletting issues

Hello, my son is nearly 4 and having assessments for ASD. He was fully toilet trained by 22 months, and had no signs of ASD at this point. His ASD symptoms began at around 2.5 years, and have been gradually getting more and more profound. About a year ago, we started having problems with toiletting. He just will not (or cannot?) tell anyone when he needs to go anymore. He will just hold on and hold on for hours and hours until he eventually has an accident. I don't usually let it get to this point at home, as I can tell when he needs a wee, so I take him to the loo, but at school he just constantly wets himself, and refuses to go when told. He has also become TERRIFED of going for a poo. He will hold on for days, and eventually ends up in such pain and discomfort, that I take him to sit on the loo. He then cries and screams until he manages to go. At school he has had some soiling accidents and he refuses to go with anyone except myself. He is not constipated by the way, simply holding on to it! This is becoming a major issue as it is taking over our life, and school are constantly moaning at me about it, as they just don't know how to deal with it. Has anyone else had similar issues with their children, and any advice would be really helpful.

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  • Thanks for your reply. I agree: it is so painful to see your little one suffer like this. I'm going to insist on a referral. My GP has point blank refused to refer him for anything else, as he has so much going on, but I think I will put my foot down.

    I do worry that he'd have accidents at school, as he is totally unable to say when he needs the loo at the moment, which is so bizarre, as two years ago he was perfectly trained. I'll perhaps try to begin the medication in the school holidays to get used to it, as I would not wish more accidents on his poor teachers. After all, it is not their job to clean him up. While I feel so sorry for my poor little chap, I do feel sorry for his teachers too, having to deal with all of this.

    Good luck with your son. He sounds like he is doing much better now, and I'll be thinking of you.

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  • Thanks for your reply. I agree: it is so painful to see your little one suffer like this. I'm going to insist on a referral. My GP has point blank refused to refer him for anything else, as he has so much going on, but I think I will put my foot down.

    I do worry that he'd have accidents at school, as he is totally unable to say when he needs the loo at the moment, which is so bizarre, as two years ago he was perfectly trained. I'll perhaps try to begin the medication in the school holidays to get used to it, as I would not wish more accidents on his poor teachers. After all, it is not their job to clean him up. While I feel so sorry for my poor little chap, I do feel sorry for his teachers too, having to deal with all of this.

    Good luck with your son. He sounds like he is doing much better now, and I'll be thinking of you.

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