Toiletting issues

Hello, my son is nearly 4 and having assessments for ASD. He was fully toilet trained by 22 months, and had no signs of ASD at this point. His ASD symptoms began at around 2.5 years, and have been gradually getting more and more profound. About a year ago, we started having problems with toiletting. He just will not (or cannot?) tell anyone when he needs to go anymore. He will just hold on and hold on for hours and hours until he eventually has an accident. I don't usually let it get to this point at home, as I can tell when he needs a wee, so I take him to the loo, but at school he just constantly wets himself, and refuses to go when told. He has also become TERRIFED of going for a poo. He will hold on for days, and eventually ends up in such pain and discomfort, that I take him to sit on the loo. He then cries and screams until he manages to go. At school he has had some soiling accidents and he refuses to go with anyone except myself. He is not constipated by the way, simply holding on to it! This is becoming a major issue as it is taking over our life, and school are constantly moaning at me about it, as they just don't know how to deal with it. Has anyone else had similar issues with their children, and any advice would be really helpful.

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  • I agree that the system does not allow for any leeway. I am a full time teacher myself, so although I would LOVE to home school my little boy, I am unable to. He has been in school since just turned 3, and I do feel that the structured environment has suited him better than day nursery would have done. He is reading and doing extremely well with numeracy. The main problematic issues are the total lack or interaction with other children, and the toiletting issues.

    Luckily in September he is starting at the school where I teach. I will be on the spot when problems arise, and I will will know his teachers well. I have been open with them about his issues since Easter this year, and so far they have been supportive.

    I am working through possible ways to help him and support him, but the toiletting problems are so, so distressing. I just don't know how to help him, and am wondering what strategies other parents have used, whose children have had similar problems.

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  • I agree that the system does not allow for any leeway. I am a full time teacher myself, so although I would LOVE to home school my little boy, I am unable to. He has been in school since just turned 3, and I do feel that the structured environment has suited him better than day nursery would have done. He is reading and doing extremely well with numeracy. The main problematic issues are the total lack or interaction with other children, and the toiletting issues.

    Luckily in September he is starting at the school where I teach. I will be on the spot when problems arise, and I will will know his teachers well. I have been open with them about his issues since Easter this year, and so far they have been supportive.

    I am working through possible ways to help him and support him, but the toiletting problems are so, so distressing. I just don't know how to help him, and am wondering what strategies other parents have used, whose children have had similar problems.

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