• Replies 3 replies
  • Subscribers 68 subscribers
  • Views 758 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

They dont like one of their siblings at all!

NAS81388

Background. I have 4 children 2 with autism. 

My younger child with autism is 2 & half (non verbal) he does not like his sister at all ( shes almost 1)   even her near toys or certain places he had a meltdown, he takes everything away from her and refuses to let her play   usually id say terrible two he will grow out of it  ect however the meltdowns are his crying inconsolable until what ever has been done its made right by his standards.. This could be literally anything  even if hes snatched it away ect even if we have 2 or 8 of everything.. He likes to carry things in piles alot, he will move around the room if shes near or moves ect.. its worse when we get somthing new he likes to be the only one to touch if for a certain amount of days before she can even go near it. Obviously it was easier when she wasn't moving around however shes now almost walking and its not fair on any of them because he obviously needs his time and she need hers, i cant separate them and i have a small house, hes very rough with her and im afraid once she is walking he will probably push her over alot as he does try now.  He does not act this way with his older siblings and is fine wirh me Im really stuck on what to do as shes now getting scared to be around him. I try keep them doing their own thing  as much as i can   any suggestions?? 

Parents

  • This sounds really difficult. Are you NeuroDivergent as well? If so, but haven't had a chance to understand what this means, it could be helpful to get a crash course from other Autistic Adults on this site which would help give you innate reasoning with these two.

    I'll have a little think, but this is a dilemma. Anything you can do to keep them separate is clearly the immediate solution. 

    But when you say he needs time to examine and understand a thing before anyone is allowed to touch it, there are limits. He's probably not interested in groceries or whatever can be brought in from outside, correct? I just wonder if there are projects to keep him occupied in a small space which is just his... like under the stairs :) But they're too young to not keep an eye on!

Reply

  • This sounds really difficult. Are you NeuroDivergent as well? If so, but haven't had a chance to understand what this means, it could be helpful to get a crash course from other Autistic Adults on this site which would help give you innate reasoning with these two.

    I'll have a little think, but this is a dilemma. Anything you can do to keep them separate is clearly the immediate solution. 

    But when you say he needs time to examine and understand a thing before anyone is allowed to touch it, there are limits. He's probably not interested in groceries or whatever can be brought in from outside, correct? I just wonder if there are projects to keep him occupied in a small space which is just his... like under the stairs :) But they're too young to not keep an eye on!

Children
  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    Hello thanks for your reply, i am not no, i dont have any mental disabilities. He does like to be outside & bring things in,  he will often make piles of things  bring them inside or stuff outside ect. We hsve very little storage space  whst we do have is a boiler cupboard and a place to put the pram, thats it, a small kitchen small living room ect, for my older child who has autism hes sensory avoidant mostly but hes old enough to do his own thing.