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A struggling parent of an Aspie son, who has lost his Family

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I hate myself. As of last week, I was in a family of four, where one of our teenage sons who has Asperger's. There has been a strain on my relationship with him, exacerbated by my parenting expectations inevitably fuelled his lack of love towards me.  The family was already fractured and strained, my wife and I would not agree my approach to parenting him, but online texting with another woman has sealed our fate and am now facing Divorce.  i am broken, moved out of the family home and trying to keep a relationship with my youngest son during this holiday week.  They are off on a pre-planned holiday, next week, for 3 weeks.  I wish I could have figured-out how to have a relationship with him. Life may have been so different.  I live with regret, shame and now loss. 

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  • Sounds a similar situation to my own.  My ex-wife divorced me 14 years ago, when my son who has autism was 10 years old.  Lots of issues with my ex - I travelled a lot for work, had a series of demanding jobs prior to that too - and an acrimonious divorced stoked up by her and her family.

    See if your wife is agreeable to seeing a counsellor with you to discuss your son, in the interests of his welfare.  If she is, a joint parenting plan is a possibility.

    Wishing you all the best - I know it's very difficult.

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  • Sounds a similar situation to my own.  My ex-wife divorced me 14 years ago, when my son who has autism was 10 years old.  Lots of issues with my ex - I travelled a lot for work, had a series of demanding jobs prior to that too - and an acrimonious divorced stoked up by her and her family.

    See if your wife is agreeable to seeing a counsellor with you to discuss your son, in the interests of his welfare.  If she is, a joint parenting plan is a possibility.

    Wishing you all the best - I know it's very difficult.

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