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Sons response when agitated

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Hi, my 15 year old son has recently received a ASD diagnosis. We are just coming to terms with it and my son at the moment does not wish to talk about. But the main thing we are struggling with is his response when he becomes upset. He goes for 0-10 in seconds which i know is common in ASD. But is language is frightening. Just want to make it clear i don't think for one minute he will do these things and i know it's a response but if anyone can offer any advice on how to support him to use other strategies for these times. He doesn't swear but he threatens to smash places up, kills his family, friends, neighbours, pets. And the threats are very graphic. He has always done this but the threats are much more intense. Thanks  

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  • Hi, I'm sorry to hear that. My daughter, who is 16 tomorrow, went through a similar thing. She was diagnosed at 14 and doesn't like talking about it much either. We were walking on eggshells. Her mood changes quickly and it was scary. She would threaten to run away and kill herself. She would threaten to kill us and would scream the place down. Sometimes it was because there wasn't a clean 'normal' spoon to use. It was bad. 

    We handled her behaviour by moving her to a safe place away from everyone, or if that wasn't possible we would move the children and pets away to a different room. This then gave her the space to calk down. I would get her things to calm her down, ice packs, weighted blanket, favourite toys. And I would put a film on for her to help her relax with the lights off. Safety always comes first. I know they are threats and words but they are scary and I admit, I have had to call the police a few times. 

    I hope you find out ways to help. Sorry if this doesn't help but you aren't alone. We are still figuring out new ways. Don't forget, he's a teenager so is going through the same changes and hormonal changes as everyone else. Adding autism into the equation makes things even more difficult for the family. Good luck. 

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  • Hi, I'm sorry to hear that. My daughter, who is 16 tomorrow, went through a similar thing. She was diagnosed at 14 and doesn't like talking about it much either. We were walking on eggshells. Her mood changes quickly and it was scary. She would threaten to run away and kill herself. She would threaten to kill us and would scream the place down. Sometimes it was because there wasn't a clean 'normal' spoon to use. It was bad. 

    We handled her behaviour by moving her to a safe place away from everyone, or if that wasn't possible we would move the children and pets away to a different room. This then gave her the space to calk down. I would get her things to calm her down, ice packs, weighted blanket, favourite toys. And I would put a film on for her to help her relax with the lights off. Safety always comes first. I know they are threats and words but they are scary and I admit, I have had to call the police a few times. 

    I hope you find out ways to help. Sorry if this doesn't help but you aren't alone. We are still figuring out new ways. Don't forget, he's a teenager so is going through the same changes and hormonal changes as everyone else. Adding autism into the equation makes things even more difficult for the family. Good luck. 

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