Our son is 28 years, old. Twenty months ago he moved into a bedsit with 15 hours support a, week and a on site support person in a office 24 hrs a day. He wanted to move out of the family home so we supported him.
Now he's moving into a new larger flat, again supported liveing. The thing is he's difficult, and never listens to anyone. We were not allowed to ever enter his bed sit he refused. This last week we've had to help him move into his new flat so reluctantly he allowed us into his bedsit. I was shocked, what a, tip, hoarding, dirty scruffy, bed all mucky. The services take all his pip to pay for support. Yes I know he's awkward but why would he want to live like this.
His hygiene is awfull, he rarely washes, support workers tell him to but can't force him, his clothes are dirty, his teeth awfull again he never brushes them. Why why does he live this way. He stinks. He's also massively overweight again he won't listen.
I'm so stressed at it all. He refuses to engage in any sort of help that he doesn't think he needs.
I'm now at the point that I'm going to have to totally walk away for my own health. Stop trying to micro manage his, support team. Leave him to his rotton way of life.
It's so sad. He'd a nice home, wanted for nothing, was well cared for but he wanted to live seperatley. He's dreamed to have capacity so we've no power over his, decisions.
Anyone else gone through this and had to just think sod you and leave them to live how they want no matter how awfull a lifestyle they live.
He's physically capable of cleaning, washing, ect but doesn't.
