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My 9 year old daughter

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I literally don't feel I can cope anymore.

My 9 year old daughter is out of control.

She goes out of her way on a daily basis to make everyone miserable and absolutely WILL NOT STOP until she achieves this goal. 

She will shout, scream, be cruel to the cat, accuse you of hurting her, be violent, break things and then smile and laugh when your left in tears. 

I don't know what to do anymore?

I've been to the "understanding autism groups" tried every strategy known to man and nothing works. 

I am at the stage now that I no longer believe I can parent my child. I am miserable 24/7 and have had enough. 

I'm open to suggestions but unless it's "put a bullet through my skull" it probably won't be relevant. SobSob

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  • Can we shoot each other ? - i have lived with an undiagnosed one of your daughter for over 30 years, but they get better.

    Maybe your daughter is one of the guys where one way to deal with it is that never get the reaction they expect. In that context it may a common knowledge starting point, but it can move on to more. A specific form of focus that atypifies can be picked up on. A place to move forward for adaptation, even when driven absolutely nuts or until or nerves are sensitised and tingling. Jokes about suicide in a poignant way just to stay sane as the irony does help i found as well. We know its not a demon in them ( ofc ) its not a evil streak ( ofc ) & ofc its not permanent in such overt intensity. Though my other half is a life long emotionally needy person, but has evolved her drivers & is perfectly in balance mostly. Is your daughter is diagnosed ? - this area is certainly one of the mysteries entrenched within the asperger girl dilemma / how they differ from the boys / and what drivers or can be unrelated. Definitely the parent central nervous system in overdrive on the edge of despair is something experienced by many. And possibly its like becoming a actor going for an oscar in not reacting once nerves are in tatters. Then theres the rest of the cast & how hard it'll be to get a whole production together. But it might be the thing that delivers, as there is such a good chance that the behaviour will remodel itself into gaining the feeling of well being another way.  It could be true to say that feelings of well being is gained by the disruptive behaviour. IF it is then not only self explanatory but the key insight. Many asd girls do this & as such its a keen area of research looking to understand the drives more.

    Anyway that could be something or nothing - good luck - i hope it calms down whatever you find that works & something will.

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  • Can we shoot each other ? - i have lived with an undiagnosed one of your daughter for over 30 years, but they get better.

    Maybe your daughter is one of the guys where one way to deal with it is that never get the reaction they expect. In that context it may a common knowledge starting point, but it can move on to more. A specific form of focus that atypifies can be picked up on. A place to move forward for adaptation, even when driven absolutely nuts or until or nerves are sensitised and tingling. Jokes about suicide in a poignant way just to stay sane as the irony does help i found as well. We know its not a demon in them ( ofc ) its not a evil streak ( ofc ) & ofc its not permanent in such overt intensity. Though my other half is a life long emotionally needy person, but has evolved her drivers & is perfectly in balance mostly. Is your daughter is diagnosed ? - this area is certainly one of the mysteries entrenched within the asperger girl dilemma / how they differ from the boys / and what drivers or can be unrelated. Definitely the parent central nervous system in overdrive on the edge of despair is something experienced by many. And possibly its like becoming a actor going for an oscar in not reacting once nerves are in tatters. Then theres the rest of the cast & how hard it'll be to get a whole production together. But it might be the thing that delivers, as there is such a good chance that the behaviour will remodel itself into gaining the feeling of well being another way.  It could be true to say that feelings of well being is gained by the disruptive behaviour. IF it is then not only self explanatory but the key insight. Many asd girls do this & as such its a keen area of research looking to understand the drives more.

    Anyway that could be something or nothing - good luck - i hope it calms down whatever you find that works & something will.

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