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Homeschooling

Chunky

Hi all,

My name is Megan & I'm mum to 3 lovely boys. My youngest, Joe, was diagnosed with Autism 12 mths ago. All my boys go to mainstream school - my oldest is in Y9 & doing well in secondary school. My middle son is in Y4 & again doing well in primary school. Joe, however, is in Y2 & struggling. He's amazingly bright academically &, for this reason, I've been told that he won't get a statement. He has issues socially & emotionally. I'm not satisfied that the staff have had adequate training following a few rather upsetting incidents. 

The school is being forced into Acadamy status by the DfE & the proposed sponsor has an appalling record with SEN children. Many of our staff are 'jumping ship' before we become an academy, including our SENCO. I'm really concerned where this will leave Joe to the point where I'm considering homeschooling him. But I worry that, if I do, he'll miss out socially.

BUT WHERE DO I START? Any advice would be greatly received, especially from parents who have already gone down this route.

Many thanks.

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  • hi megan

    just joined the sight and just reading your post has hit a nerve as i went through the same thing recently.

    we was thinking  of homeschooling our boy who's 7 for a long time and finally took the huge step this xmas holidays. he did not go  back after them as he was so distressed and anxious that we couldn't do it to him any more. like your son he is very bright academically and we worried about the impact it would have socially if we took him out. but to be fair he wasn't getting anything socially from school as he stayed in at playtimes (unable to cope) and i had to pick him up for his dinner hour.

    school is a very stressful place for autistic children and i have found that since taking him out of a situation he was unable to rationalise and cope with he has flourished.

    he never ever asked for 'friends' to come round but now he's had 5 successful play dates because he has felt safe and secure and was able to control who he would see where and when, not forced into a certain situation. also he has just slept out at his cousins house and goes to golf.

    education wise it is hard home educating but in my view very rewarding and you can structure the lessons you know your son can understand and cope with. there is lots of help out there and since homeschooling him we've seen more professonals and had more help then we can remember. 

    the first place to start if you feel its right for you is go on your local council webite and that will tell u what u need to do. it gives you the law regarding home school and your rights and also a copy of the letter you will need to write if going down that route.

    it is hardwork but if your willing to do it i'm sure you'll see the benefits and hopefully a change in your son socially. i understand everychild is different and it might not mean it would be best but if your seriously giving it thought its worth the try. i've spoken to other parents who home school as i'm part of a group and for them its the right choice all round.

    good luck with whatever you choose and always keep fighting for things you believe are right for your child.

    sorry for the length of post hope it helps even if a little

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  • hi megan

    just joined the sight and just reading your post has hit a nerve as i went through the same thing recently.

    we was thinking  of homeschooling our boy who's 7 for a long time and finally took the huge step this xmas holidays. he did not go  back after them as he was so distressed and anxious that we couldn't do it to him any more. like your son he is very bright academically and we worried about the impact it would have socially if we took him out. but to be fair he wasn't getting anything socially from school as he stayed in at playtimes (unable to cope) and i had to pick him up for his dinner hour.

    school is a very stressful place for autistic children and i have found that since taking him out of a situation he was unable to rationalise and cope with he has flourished.

    he never ever asked for 'friends' to come round but now he's had 5 successful play dates because he has felt safe and secure and was able to control who he would see where and when, not forced into a certain situation. also he has just slept out at his cousins house and goes to golf.

    education wise it is hard home educating but in my view very rewarding and you can structure the lessons you know your son can understand and cope with. there is lots of help out there and since homeschooling him we've seen more professonals and had more help then we can remember. 

    the first place to start if you feel its right for you is go on your local council webite and that will tell u what u need to do. it gives you the law regarding home school and your rights and also a copy of the letter you will need to write if going down that route.

    it is hardwork but if your willing to do it i'm sure you'll see the benefits and hopefully a change in your son socially. i understand everychild is different and it might not mean it would be best but if your seriously giving it thought its worth the try. i've spoken to other parents who home school as i'm part of a group and for them its the right choice all round.

    good luck with whatever you choose and always keep fighting for things you believe are right for your child.

    sorry for the length of post hope it helps even if a little

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