Support for suicidal teenager

I had difficult times in the mid 80's at school but clearly your son is in a really difficult place so needs support and to be kind to himself no matter what has happened or happening.

He needs to talk about his thoughts/feelings even if really difficult, or write things down if talking is too much. Bits at a time even, can be hard to express it all in one go.

It will also help if he can focus on something other than thoughts/feelings for a while, like listening to music or playing a game that is calming.  If you focus on senses like hearing, or vision, you can't focus on thoughts/feelings at the same time, so you get to have a break and can feel a bit better.

If school is too triggering then you might have to consider home schooling.

I was computer obsessed in the 80's, playing games but also writing my own, and messing with electronics - it set me up for college and an apprenticeships and later jobs.  It can keep you going to focus on what like doing, best doing.  He may not be into nature but there is a young autistic naturalist Dara McNulty who knows like most autistic people that school is difficult but his love of nature and writing about it has helped him cope better.   I'm an elder autistic, but I bought his book 'Diary of a young naturalist' because reading his words reminded me of myself at that age, but I was lost in my own world and had no idea you could write and let others know about yourself and your interests.  Great to have autistic role models out there, many on social media talking about themselves or things they are into, or discussing the gritty realism of being autistic and the world around us.  Can help to know we one of many, and can connect with them.

Maybe he can develop is love of gaming in to game design, or write about games/gaming on a blog, or put videos together on youtube.  There will be plenty of autistic gamers around his age and social media or wherever.

I had difficult times in the mid 80's at school but clearly your son is in a really difficult place so needs support and to be kind to himself no matter what has happened or happening.

He needs to talk about his thoughts/feelings even if really difficult, or write things down if talking is too much. Bits at a time even, can be hard to express it all in one go.

It will also help if he can focus on something other than thoughts/feelings for a while, like listening to music or playing a game that is calming.  If you focus on senses like hearing, or vision, you can't focus on thoughts/feelings at the same time, so you get to have a break and can feel a bit better.

If school is too triggering then you might have to consider home schooling.

I was computer obsessed in the 80's, playing games but also writing my own, and messing with electronics - it set me up for college and an apprenticeships and later jobs.  It can keep you going to focus on what like doing, best doing.  He may not be into nature but there is a young autistic naturalist Dara McNulty who knows like most autistic people that school is difficult but his love of nature and writing about it has helped him cope better.   I'm an elder autistic, but I bought his book 'Diary of a young naturalist' because reading his words reminded me of myself at that age, but I was lost in my own world and had no idea you could write and let others know about yourself and your interests.  Great to have autistic role models out there, many on social media talking about themselves or things they are into, or discussing the gritty realism of being autistic and the world around us.  Can help to know we one of many, and can connect with them.

Maybe he can develop is love of gaming in to game design, or write about games/gaming on a blog, or put videos together on youtube.  There will be plenty of autistic gamers around his age and social media or wherever.

Thanks for all your advice .

He did post on yt for a bit but has said he wants to restart it .

Gaming is a big distraction for him and stops him thinking too much.

We will try to get him to talk about his feeling but he is reluctant to do so anf after 10d of interventions from

a gamut of mental service people he needs a break ."I feel like I am being interrogated for a crime I didnt do" he

said last week !