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school worries

lem

hi there my son is 5 and in reception in a mainstream school, we have had many troubles and worries but he then seemed to settle well and enjoy school.

we have moved in the last month and he seemed to cope as well as i could expect with this, but today his teache has approched me to say that she is concerned about my son as he is now very worried and nerves about everything from being first in the line to what letter there going to be working on that day?

i really wont to help my son and make him feel as safe and loved as possible but i seem to feel like i am always failing him and getting it wrong :( i would love to hear if you have any idea's on what i can do i would really be greatful

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  • So sorry to hear that your son is feeling anxious.

    You say you are always failing him and getting it wrong, but I wonder if you are being a bit hard on yourself. Sometimes it feels so difficult to be a parent, but the fact that you want to help your son feel as safe and loved as possible is a testament to the fact that you are a good parent.

    I am going to make the presumption that your son has a diagnosis of autism, and here are some suggestions:

    speak to the teacher again and discuss how the school feel they can help your son with his anxieties. If the school are not familiar with autism then suggest that the autism outreach team come in to give advice;

    talk to other parents;

    call the NAS Helpline or look online to find out what support there is in your area.

    I remember when my son was a similar age to yours and he was very anxious. We tried explaining things in very simple language, often repeating reassurances over and over again, telling him what is going to happen next, so that we limited as much as possible the number of 'surprises' that might face him in a day. We also tried to do things that made him feel good about himself, giving him the choice of what he wanted to do. Also little things like having his hair stroked really helped soothe him.

    I hope my words have helped in some way.

     

     

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  • So sorry to hear that your son is feeling anxious.

    You say you are always failing him and getting it wrong, but I wonder if you are being a bit hard on yourself. Sometimes it feels so difficult to be a parent, but the fact that you want to help your son feel as safe and loved as possible is a testament to the fact that you are a good parent.

    I am going to make the presumption that your son has a diagnosis of autism, and here are some suggestions:

    speak to the teacher again and discuss how the school feel they can help your son with his anxieties. If the school are not familiar with autism then suggest that the autism outreach team come in to give advice;

    talk to other parents;

    call the NAS Helpline or look online to find out what support there is in your area.

    I remember when my son was a similar age to yours and he was very anxious. We tried explaining things in very simple language, often repeating reassurances over and over again, telling him what is going to happen next, so that we limited as much as possible the number of 'surprises' that might face him in a day. We also tried to do things that made him feel good about himself, giving him the choice of what he wanted to do. Also little things like having his hair stroked really helped soothe him.

    I hope my words have helped in some way.

     

     

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