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NAS78554

Hi my son won’t accept his diagnosis, hes 13 and I’ve always thought it but his anxiety is through the roof.. he’s always on his room and I would say only slightly on the spectrum with anxiety and a a bit of a loner but I worry this is his life forever? 

  • in reply to NAS78554

    Autism has a generally poor image, but there are upsides to it. Autistic people tend to be good problem solvers, can think 'out of the box', are able to hyper-focus, and, in general, are more kind, loyal, unjudgmental, trustworthy and honest than the general population, and who wouldn't want these traits? My daughter is autistic, she has accommodations at her university. If your son accepts his diagnosis, he can be helped at school to reach his full potential. My daughter is studying chemistry and is in her second year, her lowest exam or assessment score so far is 88% and she still gets anxious. The anxiety is going to be there whatever happens, but it does not need to stifle achievement.

  • in reply to Martin

    Thank you so much for replying, I’m trying to explain why he feels like he does with his overthinking and sever anxiety but he’s having none of it and refuses to accept he’s autistic, I’m thinking I leave it until he comes to me but as a parent I worry I’m doing the wrong thing all the time 

  • If he is on the spectrum, then it is a lifelong condition. He is in good company though, Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Charles Darwin, Mozart, Picasso and Michelangelo all showed marked autistic traits. He is probably in his room in order to recover from the stress and exhaustion caused by having to be sociable at school. It is a standard autistic reaction. As for his future, well I'm autistic, am married with two children and had a long career in scientific research, and I spent and still spend lots of time on my own in my room.