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Embarrassed

R

Hello. This is my first time posting. I am newly diagnosed, about 2 weeks now but I have  spent that 2 weeks a bit stuck. I've read alot of things about newly diagnosed people and how they have told their family. Well I am a mother of 4, I am 47 so the diagnosis for me was such a relief. The family I live with have learnt about autism because basically I have chewed their ears off about it so they are super cool and in the know.....now this is where it gets embarrassing, I felt so understood so I then felt brave to tell my dad's wife about my diagnosis of autism.....she gasped and asked "is it life threatening" ...........oh my days, I feel like I have stupidly ran across a football pitch naked.....I want the world to swallow me up now. My husband laughed his head off which yes I can laugh but why did I even mention it to dinosaurs?! .....

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  • I can entirely understand the feeling you described here. I have told a few people and wished I could take it back based on their immediate reaction (not encountered anything too bad as of yet though). The thing that I’m slowly coming to terms with though, is that other peoples’ reactions are going to be varied, but maybe it will spur them on to learning about something that they have little to no understanding of, or perhaps their knowledge is based on untrue information and misunderstandings. I’m also quite enjoying the concept of just telling people, when I judge it to be right for me, and leaving it at that. If they want to know any more about me, I’m working on the assumption that they’ll ask. If they don’t ask for more, I don’t say anymore about it. I’m finding that people are asking more when they are ready. Anyway, I don’t really know what I’m getting at here, but I suppose I’m trying to say that not everyone will get it and that’s maybe okay. We can just do our bit to raise awareness and explain ourselves to a world that doesn’t quite see things from a neurologically diverse viewpoint.

    All the best

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  • I can entirely understand the feeling you described here. I have told a few people and wished I could take it back based on their immediate reaction (not encountered anything too bad as of yet though). The thing that I’m slowly coming to terms with though, is that other peoples’ reactions are going to be varied, but maybe it will spur them on to learning about something that they have little to no understanding of, or perhaps their knowledge is based on untrue information and misunderstandings. I’m also quite enjoying the concept of just telling people, when I judge it to be right for me, and leaving it at that. If they want to know any more about me, I’m working on the assumption that they’ll ask. If they don’t ask for more, I don’t say anymore about it. I’m finding that people are asking more when they are ready. Anyway, I don’t really know what I’m getting at here, but I suppose I’m trying to say that not everyone will get it and that’s maybe okay. We can just do our bit to raise awareness and explain ourselves to a world that doesn’t quite see things from a neurologically diverse viewpoint.

    All the best

Children
  • in reply to Oakling

    Oh wow thankyou, you maybe don't know what you were getting at and I don't even know what I am getting at....maybe we have felt embarrassed all our lives for not fitting in. I honestly don't know but thankyou the same I appreciate you replying.  In some sort of way we feel proud but ashamed at the same time. I honestly hate talking about me.