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Dear All,

Our son who is 35 years old has been  diagnosed with Autism.  We need advice about how to help and support him be happier and more relaxed about life, overcoming difficulties.  He has frequently faced difficulties in workplaces, and is much happier working on his own which he has been fortunate to do during lockdown.  He becomes stressed and anxious even when he loses any tiny thing.  He is very sensitive and we have to be careful about what we talk about as he becomes a little obsessed and stubborn with his views/beliefs and can become very anxious and annoyed if we have another opinion.  He has three other siblings and they find it difficult to communicate with him as he can be very direct, at times says inappropriate things, tends to criticize a lot.  We just wanted to know how we can help him.  

  • It’s incredibly defeating to feel unheard and misunderstood. It’s also a nightmare attempting to tip toe around indirect mind games. if a mindful intentionality integrated into helping another understand what I am attempting to convey is my responsibility, then a society where I need telepathy is only perpetuates confusion  The complication with language, linguistics, when integrity is a standard of being healthy (words and actions in alignment), IS a marker of an uphill battle all autistic individuals face. Luckily, we innately understand one another and take issue with the “secret codes” which NeuroTypical society embodies. Peel through the hashtag #ActuallyAutistic on Twitter and you’ll hear hundreds of us irritated at these confusing nuances in society. 

    As someone who’s autistic, I don’t lose things. And when I do it breaks my flow, knocks me out of the focus I was in and can disrupt work, which means money. 

    In an environment I can control, everything has its place. I create. And contrary to my NeuroTypical peers, my workspace is immaculate. 

    These are strengths, not weaknesses. And just like all natural skills and talents they need maturing