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16 year old girl barely speaking

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looking for any advice/guidance regarding my 16 year old daughter.  She has become really withdrawn, barely communicates with myself, husband and older sister.  She does text daily with her 2 friends, doesn’t often see them but texts daily. She is currently not attending school, has been in mainstream with autism unit attached.  She has really struggled with secondary education and is desperate to leave.  Doesn’t have a plan in place, won’t talk to people she doesn’t know at all.  I’m totally lost and don’t know how to help her! All advice welcome. 

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  • My son is also out of college at the moment. Educational institutions can be completely overwhelming for autistic people - especially if they’re not getting excellent support (which most don’t in my experience).

    it’s good that she’s texting her friends - that’s really positive. It can be nicer and less stressful than seeing people in person. What interests does she have? It is some intense interest of some kind that usually energises autistic people and motivates them and makes them happy. Without that we soon get very down. 
    I would make it clear to her that you are always there for her and that there is no pressure coming from you to get her to do things. Pressure from any source causes a huge amount of stress and often makes people withdraw. 

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  • My son is also out of college at the moment. Educational institutions can be completely overwhelming for autistic people - especially if they’re not getting excellent support (which most don’t in my experience).

    it’s good that she’s texting her friends - that’s really positive. It can be nicer and less stressful than seeing people in person. What interests does she have? It is some intense interest of some kind that usually energises autistic people and motivates them and makes them happy. Without that we soon get very down. 
    I would make it clear to her that you are always there for her and that there is no pressure coming from you to get her to do things. Pressure from any source causes a huge amount of stress and often makes people withdraw. 

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