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christine

Hi all,

My son has not been diagnosed with an ASD, we are waiting assessment, but I am coming to terms with the likely outcome of that. One of my biggest concerns is how he is socially with other kids. He was 4 in February, so he is still quite young, but he does some odd things. He is obsessed with animals - and I mean 24/7 obsessed (doesnt help that we are farmers I suppose!). He cant connect properly with other kids, he howls, barks and takes on animal personas, he pretends to dig like a dog or pounce like a lion etc, he likes being near other kids, but does not know how to strike up friendships.

He has 2 1/2 year old twin sisters which he adores, but he cant seem to know when he is annoying them or hurting them. He can be quite nasty on the things he says to them and I cant get him to understand that he is upsetting them. 

I am so heartbroken, I had such dreams for my beautiful baby boy, but now all I can see for him ahead is a struggle to be accepted, and understood. I so desperately want to help him, and Ii dont know how. I dont even know for definate that he has an ASD, and the assessment wont be for another 12 months. Even if he does get a diagnosis, how much difference will that make?  

My life is consumed constantly with thoughts of autism and my son, I cant sleep and it is all I think about. I am sure I am not the first or the last to feel like this, so maybe somewhere there is some handbook with all the answers?!?

Sorry to moan, but I am feeling a little better already.....

Christine 

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  • Hi Christine - how old is your son?   Aof us have been in that place where we're waiting for a diagnosis.  If you think your son has autism, even tho things are 12 months away, then check out this site to find ways of helping him.  You may already be doing this, so apologies if that's the case.  In my opinion a diagnosis is v important + shd be followed up with a statement of educational needs.  This will enable your son to get support he needs in school, such as a teaching assistant.  You can also apply for DLA on his behalf which can help with any extra expenditure.  You can also request a carer's assessment + carer's allowance if you so wish.  We all had dreams for our children. A diagnosis can take some getting used to.  People adjust in their own time + way.  Your son is the same child he always was + needs parents who understand how autism affects him as an individual.  This varies in that some people are more affected than others. There's loads of into on this site, so have a look around to see how you can help him.  

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  • Hi Christine - how old is your son?   Aof us have been in that place where we're waiting for a diagnosis.  If you think your son has autism, even tho things are 12 months away, then check out this site to find ways of helping him.  You may already be doing this, so apologies if that's the case.  In my opinion a diagnosis is v important + shd be followed up with a statement of educational needs.  This will enable your son to get support he needs in school, such as a teaching assistant.  You can also apply for DLA on his behalf which can help with any extra expenditure.  You can also request a carer's assessment + carer's allowance if you so wish.  We all had dreams for our children. A diagnosis can take some getting used to.  People adjust in their own time + way.  Your son is the same child he always was + needs parents who understand how autism affects him as an individual.  This varies in that some people are more affected than others. There's loads of into on this site, so have a look around to see how you can help him.  

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