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Hi, my son has just been diagnosed at 13.  I have always thought it and he was just diagnosed by CAMHS but the decision seems to be so quick, I completed a form, they did an assessment, it went to a panel and they called yesterday in the most blunt way to say, oh yes its  been to the panel and he does have a diagnosis and you'll get  pack in the post, if he know longer has bad anxiety can I discharge you, that was it.  I have to say it has shocked me how they said it and discharged me straight away, I have no idea what this pack will have in it but they said just come on here for advice.

I am proud of my son everyday but he is struggling to accept this, keeps saying he has not got it and he doesn't want to talk about it ever again.  He has calmed down a bit but still saying Mum I am fine and not got it, refuses to read anything and listen to anything on line with me, I am at a loss as what to do?  He has begged me not to tell school or anyone else, does anyone have experience in dealing with a similar issue as I don't know what to do for the best.  

Part of me thinks I shouldn't have told him.

Thanks 

xx 

  • This is not uncommon.  I think part of the reason is autism is commonly associated with low IQ, learning disability and need for high level of care.  It might be that he does not want to be labelled.  My son has above average IQ and does not like to attend any autistic groups or special needs groups. He also does not want to attend a specialist school even though he is not coping in the mainstream and skips school regularly. This is not easy to come to terms with. It might be worth allowing him time to process all this. Also talk to your GP and ask then for CAMHS support if you feel this is impacting his mental health. It might be worth watching Chris Packham's video on his own asperger's diagnosis and how he has succeeded inspite of everything.  Google it and you will find the video. Also youtube has ample content with autistic people beautifully explaining what autism is and isn't.