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Overwhelmed

NAS64614

Hi

This is my first time reaching out like this…..

I suppose I am just seeking reassurance that we are not the only ones going through this?

Our 10 year old son is autistic and has ADHD, we fought really hard to get him an EHCP but he is really struggling at school. He has been accepted to an amazing school for September but we / I am now fighting the local authority for funding- that process is ALOT!

The task is soooo hard with all the paperwork and trying to figure out all the legalities- not to mention the eye watering cost of all the private reports! 

My 13 year old daughter is waiting for an assessment for ASD in June, she is depressed and anxious and nothing I do seems to help.

Our family doesn’t feel like a happy place, there are constant explosive meltdowns from both kids, both of them are really struggling to attend school, mostly my daughter.

We have weekly family and individual therapy but my husband and I are so drained. There is no room for our marriage amongst the struggles, work, constant emotional needs of the children, house stuff and general day to day ‘normal life’.

Dows anyone else feel overwhelmed and a bit like a failure at times?

  • in reply to Nikki

    Thank you Heart️I’m sending you so much love- I’m so sorry you have no one to talk to. I think that’s why forums like this are so important! I wish you lots of luck in getting your appeal done xxx

  • HI, I can complete relate to your situation.  I have one son with aspergers and caring for him is a full time job. The days he attends school seem like a miracle. Of course it's not his fault. We haven't been able to find him a school where he will fit it. I am also going through the appeals process and only to get a few tweaks on the plan. And even that is a huge strain on the mental health and pocket. Given that you are fighting for a specific school, it would be that much more draining. All I would say is live one day at a time, although it's easier said than done.  I tend to console myself by looking at the positives- at least my son has speech, intellect, a sense of humour .. That's the only way to get through this. It's a good thing you have access to therapy.. It can feel very isolating when you have no one to talk to about this. I have no one to talk to on a regular basis about son's issues as I have not told  my friends and family about my son's diagnosis. I fear this is make it worse for me and my son and ruin whatever little peace we have.