ASD Daughter doesn't like me talking to anyone

Hi there,

My almost 5 year old daughter who has just been diagnosed ASD but would have been aspergers has never liked me talking to anyone and it's getting really difficult and isolating. She doesn't even like me talking to the cat!!  She gets super ratty and can have a meltdown over it which causes me to feel really isolated and unable to build connections. She has been like this since she was around 2 years old and the health visitor who came to our house saw it for herself as when she got fed up of me talking she got a cup of water from the table and tipped it over my head! Now she just gets really cross and aggressive or upset....Yesterday my friends little boy hurt himself and I went to see if he was okay and my daughter lashed out at me...It's so tough. 

Has anyone else had any experience of this?

Thanks