Hi
I am wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation to us and found the way forward. My 9 year old has struggled going to school for over a year, she has been having horrible violent meltdowns every night for a long time. The atmosphere at home is so tense just waiting for the next explosion. She is at mainstream school has ELSA when staff are available and the teacher helps her (when she asks) with her maths. She says everyone at school hates her so it's not surprised she hates going but she will then talk about who she played with at lunch time so it's a bit confusing. She also now has separation anxiety from me at night and more recently isn't sleeping. We got help from the primary mental health worker who said we had a case for an EHCP but when I look at the existing school paperwork, I don't think she has even made it onto the special needs register! We get targets and what the teacher child and parent will do to help ensure the targets are met..... does that mean she is on the register!?
When i spoke with the mental health worker and Senco last, it was agreed that the teacher will start check ins daily with her too. I don't think this is enough but equally don't know what else can be done apart from try for an EHCP but she is just about meeting academic targets except in maths. Can you get an EHCP for mental health reasons (anxiety) and if so what would this look like in terms of support? She is in year 5 and we have to think about next schools too, where she is too able for a Unit or special provision but her anxiety is super high and I can't imagine her coping at secondary school. Has anyone managed to get their child into a small independent mainstream school through an EHCP?..... I would be really grateful for any advice as we can't continue as we are at home.
Thanks you so much for any advice