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Hi there I’m new to this group. We are struggling with our 13 year old sons anger. Anyone out there who can give advice please? Thank you

  • Hi,

    I have just seen your post and wanted to ask if you have you managed to get any advice as I  too have just joined as we are also struggling with our 12 years meltdowns which are very intense,  verbally extreme and physical also. Yesterday he had a meltdown which lasted for 5 hours because I was 10 minutes late collecting him from school although I left when he sent me a message asking me to collect him. Meltdown consisted of shouting, screaming,  swearing, name calling, throwing things and hitting. I am so worried how this will progress as gets older and into adulthood. There is no way I can reach him when he is at this stage as he will not listen and at the best of times struggles with accepting requests to do things. 

    Thanks,

  • Hi There, Sorry to hear that you and your son are going through a tough time at the moment. I have linked to some of our pages that might be useful to you:

    Individuals on the spectrum can often display behaviour that may be challenging. There will generally be a reason for this and it is important to try and understand the trigger for the behaviour when developing strategies. You may like to have a look at the following link for more information on behaviour and strategies: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour 

    You may be interested in seeking some professional support regarding the behaviour. You can search for professionals in your area we are aware of on the Autism Services Directory: https://www.autism.org.uk/directory 

     You might also like to take a look at The Challenging Behaviour Foundation website for further information and advice: https://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk.  They also have an information and support service which you can contact by phone or email – details can be found here: https://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk/for-family-carers/family-support-service/ 

    Hopefully you find something useful in those links,

    Best wishes,

    SarahMod

  • Anxiety causes anger and this becomes heightened with teenagers. For my son demands can increase anxiety, as can change. Trying to give options with demands or making them less direct can help. If he is in year 9 he may have decisions regarding options adding to anxiety. 

    Are there specific things which increase the anger?

    Does he go out with friends or spend most of his time at home?