Hello all,
I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions they could give me regarding toileting. Sorry in advance for the topic!
My daughter is 3.5 and is very bright, and understands everything I say, but has expressive communication difficulties. I know for certain that she understands where she should be doing her number twos (she can sing a bye-bye poopoo song, can tell me that 'poopoo lives in the toilet' etc), but is deeply ashamed of doing a number two, and will run away and hide any chance she gets and do it in her knickers. She won't tell anyone she has done this at nursery- and has had a spate of urine infections in the past which I believe were contributed by this.
She does (mostly) manage to do her wee on the potty or toilet, but needs to be reminded to go, and although she has been in knickers since June last year, can come home from nursery with up to five changes of clothes if she has had a bad day (she also wets herself when she gets upset or distressed/can't communicate).
I have tried all the usual things: books about poo, pictures around the toilet and potty, reward charts etc, but for some reason, although she clearly dislikes the feeling of passing stools in her knickers, she would rather do this than use the toilet or potty- but then is really embarrassed and freaked out when it happens. She has even been sitting on the potty and stood up last minute to stop herself from pooping in the potty before.
She has managed to do about 4 poos on a potty/toilet and every time she manages it she is so elated and proud of herself- I am just at a loss really of what to try next. We don't put any pressure on her about it and try to stay upbeat and remind her to try next time but I am starting to worry this might not just be a phase and really want her to be able to poo in a toilet by the time she starts school.
Wondering if maybe this is a sensory thing?
Any suggestions would be really appreciated.
Thanks all 
