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Getting a hair cut

Marie1980

My son is 13, he has severe ADHD and autism. When he was younger he didn’t mind having his hair and even went to the barbers. Now, he refuses. We spoken about it together so I can understand why he doesn’t like it and the main reason seems to be because it’s change. He says that I might cut it wrong, he might not like it etc. I cut his her once on a Sunday night ready for school, the next morning he did everything not to go to school, I finally got him to the school gates and he was heartbroken thinking that his “entire school will laugh” at him. I physically couldn’t make him walk in to school so upset so we went home and I took a day off work. 
My question is - does anyone have any advise, tips anything that I can use to make having his hair cut easier for both of us? 
Thanks in advance!

Marie x

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  • I cut my eldest sons hair at home, once his hair starts to grow down by his ears it looks really messy, its not an easy task. I offer a £15 play station gift card as an incentive (as I’d pay that for a haircut at the hair dressers) Which doesn’t always work, I never force him if he doesn’t want to, I’d leave it a few days then make the offer again.

    I shave the full head to a number 4 all over. We have to shave a bit then take a break brush the hair off his neck shave another bit then another break and so on. It ends up taking about 40 mins. Also like your son my son says he looks silly after a hair cut. We gave up on going to the hair dresser about 4 years ago as it caused too much upset for my son and stress for myself.

    My youngest son age 4 has never had a hair cut, he has beautiful shoulder length hair and he really suits it. I couldn’t imagine even taking him to a hair dressers as I know the distress he would be in and I just wouldn’t put him through it.

    I don’t have much advice for you other than offering an incentive to get the hair cut or can he sit with his device and watch YouTube or play a game during the hair cut.

     Also wanted to say you are not alone and a lot of our children hate the dreaded hair cut. 

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  • I cut my eldest sons hair at home, once his hair starts to grow down by his ears it looks really messy, its not an easy task. I offer a £15 play station gift card as an incentive (as I’d pay that for a haircut at the hair dressers) Which doesn’t always work, I never force him if he doesn’t want to, I’d leave it a few days then make the offer again.

    I shave the full head to a number 4 all over. We have to shave a bit then take a break brush the hair off his neck shave another bit then another break and so on. It ends up taking about 40 mins. Also like your son my son says he looks silly after a hair cut. We gave up on going to the hair dresser about 4 years ago as it caused too much upset for my son and stress for myself.

    My youngest son age 4 has never had a hair cut, he has beautiful shoulder length hair and he really suits it. I couldn’t imagine even taking him to a hair dressers as I know the distress he would be in and I just wouldn’t put him through it.

    I don’t have much advice for you other than offering an incentive to get the hair cut or can he sit with his device and watch YouTube or play a game during the hair cut.

     Also wanted to say you are not alone and a lot of our children hate the dreaded hair cut. 

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