Autistic Women - Coercive Control

My 20 year old daughter has been in a relationship with a much older man for a few months and it has started to become apparent that his conduct towards her is coercive/controlling.As is normal in these relationships, he is isolating her from her family. All the other red flags are there (financial abuse, checking her Whatsapp messages; lovebombing her etc etc). I'm very scared, and worried about what might happen.

Does anyone have any links to resources or know of other places where I could get help?  Ideally I need something that explains in a careful way to her what a coercive controlling relationship is, as if it's too obvious she'll accuse me of interfering. Of course as it's her first 'big love' she thinks that she has to preserve the relationship at all costs, but she doesn't know what a normal relationship is!

Any thoughts?

Parents
  • That’s awful to hear. I can empathise. As a parent, what can you do other than show her some facts, send some links to websites and let her digest the info. I know she’s only 20, but she might come to her own realisations at some point anyway, but yes, intimately you will want to ease her in the right direction for help. 
    These ‘individuals’ are skilled at latching on to vulnerable women. I have personal experience.

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  • That’s awful to hear. I can empathise. As a parent, what can you do other than show her some facts, send some links to websites and let her digest the info. I know she’s only 20, but she might come to her own realisations at some point anyway, but yes, intimately you will want to ease her in the right direction for help. 
    These ‘individuals’ are skilled at latching on to vulnerable women. I have personal experience.

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