This article is amazing: https://autisticnotweird.com/cruelty/
I no longer have a relationship with the woman claiming to be my biological mother who was cruel to me in nearly every way this article states growing up. Around 17/18 I was then hung out to dry... 'left to the wolves'. I did not figure it out, I was simply fired from job after job, homeless, unseen, unheard, misunderstood, taken advantage of. While there was a turning point and some elements of hope in my late 20's from found mentorships, my story has a great deal of overwhelming sadness.
Now in my 40s and thankfully having a grandmother who was a refuge, though she lived far away, I can tell you the only result from attempting to force a child to pretend to be Neuro-Normative will be a severing their trust and a severing that relationship for good. I cannot stress enough how important it is to Afford Dignity, Afford Kindness. The mentor, becoming-sage, the carer, the one given authority (parent of otherwise) should be mindful and fearful of what they've been given. Arrest and relinquish any and all internal offence: your role is never to be an opponent but a Guide who seeks understanding. Anything given can be taken away - steward wisely. x