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Smearing

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My child is 5 and hasnt got a ASD diagnoses yet , we are waiting for an assessment. He has really struggled at school and preschool. Currently his new behaviour is smearing poo or weeing everywhere as a result of a change that he didnt like at school. He is also refusing to use the toilets at school and choosing to poo in his pants and refuse changing. He does not like to talk about why he is doing it and it may take a few days before we can work out what he isnt haply with. 

I was wondering if there is anything we can do to get him to vent his frustrations in a different way? He is a very bright child but struggles socially and hates transitions and changes which the school are very aware of. However we get constant phone calls to come in and change his uniform or that he has been defiant at school. 

Thanks in advance . 

  • in reply to Anna

    Thankyou for your response. He uses the toilet mostly fine at home apart from when he is upset about something and will do something . 

    He has been toilet trained since 2 . I think yout right about using it for something to control when feeling distressed. He really struggles at school . Not good with transitions refuses to sit with other kids. School referred him for a assessment but they said he was too young at the time so is now waiting to see a specialised doctor. 

    Just want him happy and supported . Going to suggest doing some social stories with him at school. He was ok going to thr toilet in school before then regressed alot after the lockdown. Hasnt been a great few years for kids starting school . Especially those with transition and sensory issues ! 

    I will suggest more sensory play and do some at home thankyou. 

    Thankyou for your help! 

  • in reply to Anna

    For venting frustration perhaps lots of sensory play or outdoor activity like trikes, mud kitchens or whatever he's keen on?  

  • It sounds like you're stuck in the phase between diagnosis and statementing where your child's need for individual support at school has not yet been put in place.   This is getting him out of the classroom so might be quite an effective way of avoiding demands if he's overwhelmed by something in the environment and sometimes to see a parent or go home.  Aids such as visual schedules and social stories could help him with transitions and personal care routines/overcoming toilet fears might help if not already in place.  I wonder if he's moved into Year 1 and if his class group has changed, increased in number?  Was he using the toilet successfully at school (and home) before, would he respond well to a reward system and frequent opportunities?  I hope he gets enough TA support hours urgently if he doesn't already have them.  These phases can recur and for my child was something they could control when feeling distressed.  I know it's stressful as a parent and wish you well.