Can someone please help.
My heart breaks constantly. Essentially, my 10 year old son is autistic, and this is so obvious to me. He is highly functioning, was reading fluently at the age of 3, but never said the word 'no' until he was almost 3, had to take him to private speech therapy for years, always struggled to make eye contact etc. his first primary school believed he was autistic at the age of 5 / 6, and my husband pulled him out as he believed they were wrong and sent him to a new school. Now, I've always known there is something not quite right with my son, he has never had a friend, never had friends over, doesn't seem to 'speak' or act appropriately, it used to be rehearsed speech and now its just repetition, a lot of spouting facts etc. Simple things like washing his hands after going to the toilet he just can't seem to get his head around, yet this kid can 'code' (self taught) and literally, is the cleverest chin around.
But socially, something is massively wrong. In life, something is wrong. I can't (and wouldn't) trust him to cross the road by himself as an example, he lacks any awareness of the world around him. Etc etc. I feel like there's so much I just can't describe it here. In summary though, he will be turning ten shortly, and his behaviour is changing. He is starting to get frustrated and is acting out. I don't know how the school have never noticed this or, if they haven't, have never said anything. I am scared for my son. I know he has no fiends, I am scared he is being bullied although he denies anything of the sort. I know he 'knows' he is not like the other children. He just doesn't act like other kids. He is the most loving, sweetest, caring child in the worlds. But my husband is in such massive denial that I can't say anything to the school, if he knew it came from he he WOULD divorce me. It would tear our family apart and we have two other, younger children.
Is there any way I can somehow get someone to see this and initiate some sort of assessment without me having say anything? Or at least make it appear that this has somehow incidentally come from the outside?
I know people might tell me that my priority is my son, and if I care for him I should put him above my husband. But its not that im not, my husband is the best dad in the world, he takes care of the kids full time whilst I work, and he adores them. I ant break his heart, and I can't tear apart the family. Thanks in advance.
