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Advice for a mum from your past experiences please

NAS74727

Hi! ive spent the last 3 days reading all of your posts trying to understand the best way to deal with my childs recent autism diagnosis, if you have any advice what has helped you as a child or even as an adult id appreciate it. Abit of background - he has meltdowns, he has alot of anxiety, hes sensitive to noise, hes not really the type to isolate himself (not from me anyway i cant move for him haha) he eats the same 4 meals on rotation, doesnt really enjoy going outside just to mention a few things

i just dont want to mess this up! thanks :)

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  • Also there is certainly a pattern to his eating. He could probably eat a lot of other foods but trying new foods makes him anxious. Why? If you make him a whole meal with a new food he will feel under pressure to eat it all if he doesn’t like the first bite. And if he does reject it after the first bite adults tend to say ‘but you haven’t really tried it.

    when you introduce him to new foods make sure you only put one mouthful in front of him and make it clear he’s only expected to take one bite.

    also try and observe the pattern. Did he reject fish fingers? Try avoiding serving him oily sea food. Did he reject curry? Maybe spicy food just isn’t for him. Pay attention to texture, bitterness, spice etc. Note the way in which custard is gooy in a different way than thick milkshake (one is shear thickening the other shear thining)

    A lot of foods will be rejected for their texture not flavour. A dry chocolate cake may be received very differently than a moist fruit cake. but flavour can make a difference too. The difference between green and red grapes is important to me.

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  • Also there is certainly a pattern to his eating. He could probably eat a lot of other foods but trying new foods makes him anxious. Why? If you make him a whole meal with a new food he will feel under pressure to eat it all if he doesn’t like the first bite. And if he does reject it after the first bite adults tend to say ‘but you haven’t really tried it.

    when you introduce him to new foods make sure you only put one mouthful in front of him and make it clear he’s only expected to take one bite.

    also try and observe the pattern. Did he reject fish fingers? Try avoiding serving him oily sea food. Did he reject curry? Maybe spicy food just isn’t for him. Pay attention to texture, bitterness, spice etc. Note the way in which custard is gooy in a different way than thick milkshake (one is shear thickening the other shear thining)

    A lot of foods will be rejected for their texture not flavour. A dry chocolate cake may be received very differently than a moist fruit cake. but flavour can make a difference too. The difference between green and red grapes is important to me.

Children
  • in reply to Peter

    Hi! its usually only really loud noises, like hand dryers. hell clasp his hands around his ears like its painful, as far as im aware background noise doesnt really disturb him but i will ask. The food, i try to make a range of things but half of the time he wont even try it. im not sure if its how it looks? but its definitely a struggle. Hes more keen on processed foods and things like toast which isnt an ideal diet. ill keep a diary of the foods hell try and wont try to see if that will help. it feels like its things hes never seen before or new