Hi, I am a parent of a 13 year old girl and am awaiting an autism assessment via CAMHS, so it may be some time. In the meantime she is totally amazing but is struggling to wash herself and refuses to wash her clothes, and won’t let me do it. All of this causes her distress and I really don’t know how to handle it. For example I washed her bedsheet and now she refuses to have a sheet on her bed.I have tried not applying any pressure but this means she has been wearing the same (really filthy) clothes for days. I don’t know what to do. She sees a private counsellor which has helped her to make some sense of her world, but I do really struggle with the hygiene stuff. Any advice or support would be so helpful. She hates new clothes too and is growing out of a lot of things. Will she learn to manage these things better as she matures?
