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Struggling

ParentingAutism

Hi again. I am struggling with my daughter's behavior, but also my son, who is 7, but I never talk about it. My daughter is on the spectrum and is 15 and my son isn't but suffers with anxiety. 

To start off with, my daughter keeps leaving the house and going on walks but we have made it to the point where she will ask to leave before she does. One step closer! For example, today we went out but the place we went to wasn't what she expected and that just flew her off the handle and she wanted to go home. She left us and went for a walk and met us back at the car when she had calmed and we rewarded the kids with McDonald's for doing well because nothing went to plan. 

On the other hand, I'm worried about my son's behavior and I have got professionals involved. He gets very anxious and wets the bed. I believe it's because of anxiety. He are keeping a track of it but I'm more worried about other behavior he displays. For example, yesterday he set a piece of paper on fire in the house, with a candle I lit. This could be learnt behavior because my daughter did it days ago but apparently he started it. He also jumps out the downstairs window so now we are keeping that locked. He can get very aggressive, very quickly. He will swear, scream, hurt us and in the past he has thrown things and knocked all the dining chairs over. 

Don't know if it's for attention, because some of his behavior is attention seeking. But my daughter was aggressive when she was younger. She used to try and strangle and suffocate her sister and had bad anger and self control. I got a call from school when she was in year 5 saying she pulled someone's pants down. My son, wouldn't do that but he has called his teacher a d head and hit another pupil. Luckily it's now the summer holiday so everyone is relaxing but my daughter is showing less signs of danger awareness as she used to and it's worrying. She will now walk in the traffic but didn't used to when she was younger. Don't know why this is all happening. I just needed somewhere to rant and I'm sorry for constantly bothering you. 

Thanks 

  • Oh and I forgot to mention the biggest issue. He attacks and hurts our dog. He will climb on his back, jump on him, pinch and bite him, pull and lean on his neck. He's very rough with him so we usually have too put the dog away because he gets overwhelmed and send the son to go to his room to calm down. I feel like it's attention seeking especially because he kept wandering off earlier in the shop and hiding from us and looking to get our attention when we had to repeatedly tell him not to. He also will do something and we tell him off but he will continue doing it. I'm at wits end because we have another 13 year old daughter who loves to have the last word and likes to get involved with everything. Typical teenager!!! 

    I don't know what's happening... am I worrying too much about nothing??? I'm sorry,