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Bad day and restraint

ParentingAutism

 Hi again, we've had such a bad day. To start off with I shouted at my daughter's teacher on the phone but luckily she understood why I was very emotional. 

Basically, we have the same issues every week or day but we don't know why. So today, she went to school fine but on the way there was an accident involving a cyclist being knocked off by a car but they said she seemed fine in the car and afterwards. She is a cyclist as well so she must be anxious about it. Apart from that, it was fine on the way and she did her first lesson well and had a chat to her teacher because she had a nightmare last night after witnessing a friend's attempted kidnap years ago. Everything was fine after that until it was time to go home and every Friday is the worst and we still don't know why. 

This time she refused to go home and when she was the last student left, they opened the gate to the car park but she walked past the cars and down the road trying to get away. Obviously many teachers followed her and tried bringing her back to school and they called me many times. There were around 7 staff with her and in the end she walked in a circle and then went towards the school which is near some train tracks but she made a move and walked into the middle of the road to go towards the tracks so 2 members of staff and to hold her and physically walk her back to school and into her room.

2 people were in the room with her, one blocking the door keeping it locked and the other on the other side of the room. She started getting bored and starting chucking things about and kicking chairs over and basically destroyed her room so the teachers had to obviously move everything out the room so she's safe. Then another staff member came in and they talked about dogs which calmed her. Then I got asked to collect her and I got her and I got her at 2:15 ish. She finishes at 12 and the students finish at 12:45 so again, she was the last student to go home. I don't know what to do? She just likes to wonder and she's a very high risk... I'm just lost, we don't know why she didn't want to go home and I've tried asking her but she doesn't know. I'm just at a dead end...

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  • I think that she needs an activity that allows her to be physically engaged and freedom, but it does not seem like anything in her life right now allows for this. Her abnormally high energy levels, getting bored easily and needing a change in scenery, and not being able to sit still for very long, does sound sort of like ADHD. I remember hearing a story about a child that had to constantly move, and a lot of children would just be put on ADHD medication, in order to sit down and behave at school, but her doctor advised her parents sent her to dance classes instead, and now she's a professional ballet dancer, so I think that if your daughter had an activity to she could concentrate her physical energy into, that could be beneficial for her.

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  • I think that she needs an activity that allows her to be physically engaged and freedom, but it does not seem like anything in her life right now allows for this. Her abnormally high energy levels, getting bored easily and needing a change in scenery, and not being able to sit still for very long, does sound sort of like ADHD. I remember hearing a story about a child that had to constantly move, and a lot of children would just be put on ADHD medication, in order to sit down and behave at school, but her doctor advised her parents sent her to dance classes instead, and now she's a professional ballet dancer, so I think that if your daughter had an activity to she could concentrate her physical energy into, that could be beneficial for her.

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  • in reply to Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia

    She is a road cyclist and is joining police cadets as well as the first aid side of it. She does do activities but right now she is bored in school since she is no longer allowed offsite and is exhausted when she comes home because when she's bored she finds things to do herself, which usually ends up in destructive and angry behavior which we are working on since there is no where to walk in the school. 

    At her previous school, which was a PRU, she worked closely with the senco and she believed there is ADHD in her because she always needs a change in scenery and gets bored if the same thing happens over and over again but at the same time she doesn't like change so it's difficult to work with. Unless she is fully engaged in an activity or work in school, she'll be in the corridor more than her room and be causing trouble because she's bored and she'll just be wandering all day if she was allowed to.