Issues with school

Hiya, my daughter has been struggling with school and communicating her issues with the teachers, which leads to her behaviour getting problematic. 

For example, she is finding the change from school to home hard. She finishes earlier than the other students to help her settle in but she is now refusing to come home. She was the last student to leave school yesterday and I had to come pick her up. Yesterday, she was tearing display boards down, ripping things off the wall, head-banging, punching things, swearing. She even locked the teachers out her room and out of the corridors. She was also wanting to hurt the staff. One got slightly in her way and offered to chat to find out what's wrong but instead she shoved the teacher out the way. My daughter will hurt someone if she wants to. 

Friday, we also had the same issue but we figured it was because she didn't want to go to her dad's house because she knew that if she went home, she would need to see him. In the end, 2 staff took her home and looked after home, while I was on my way back from work, but she tried to escape many times, she apparently had a tablet in her hand and she was just pacing about. When I arrived home, she tried running off so myself and a member of staff had to hold her and walk her back to the house, where she then tried jumping over the fence into next door. 

The teachers are working with her in school but she is a high risk student for running. This is an issue because the school have sports day on Thursday but it's next to a road in a field I believe, and she will struggle with the noise and she doesn't even like sports day so I thought I might keep her at home but my daughter doesn't like that idea because 'Thursday is a school day so I'm going to school'. That's what she said to me but it's a tricky situation. 

I really don't know what to do, so any advice about going home, will be very helpful?? 

Thanks x

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  • She does not seem to be willing to visit her dad, and I'm assuming that no one accepts a "no" from her as an answer, so she feels forced to visit him against her will, and she was doing everything she could do to stall for some time, to not go. And her behaviors at school and against the teachers, was just showing her displeasure at everyone for trying to force her to go home, so she'd be taken somewhere she didn't want to go against her will.

    Why can't she just not go to her dad's house? Her dad might be doing or saying something that she does not like or appreciate. I think that she should reside in a place that she's comfortable with, and not be forced and dragged to places she is obviously not willing to go to. That's not good for her or anyone else. It just seems like there's a lot of controlling people in her life, and she keeps escaping to try and get some kind of freedom. 

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  • She does not seem to be willing to visit her dad, and I'm assuming that no one accepts a "no" from her as an answer, so she feels forced to visit him against her will, and she was doing everything she could do to stall for some time, to not go. And her behaviors at school and against the teachers, was just showing her displeasure at everyone for trying to force her to go home, so she'd be taken somewhere she didn't want to go against her will.

    Why can't she just not go to her dad's house? Her dad might be doing or saying something that she does not like or appreciate. I think that she should reside in a place that she's comfortable with, and not be forced and dragged to places she is obviously not willing to go to. That's not good for her or anyone else. It just seems like there's a lot of controlling people in her life, and she keeps escaping to try and get some kind of freedom. 

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