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Jasmine (ex partner)

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  • Hi I jasmine I am 22 I have autism looking for someone to talk too about a situation I have been in I just split with my ex partner I founding it so hard to deal with and cope with I made a horrible mistake last night which I ran from home to go and spend night with him as he said some horrible stuff to me in the messages been finding thst hard to deal with qe been getting on so well recently up too accident which happened when he broke something in house and from there all gone down hill rise 
  • He been saying things like I play games and lessing with his mind all because I can't trust him which he knows I found hard as I have trust issues which I made a couple of fake accounts to see rather he was loyal or  cheet on me I don't know if good or bad or not my head is mess right now I jist can't seem to be strong to fall out love with him make me upset and sad 
  • My head is full of stuff by what he is saying to me and what my family are saying I just dunno what or who to believe I founding it so hard too deal with I feel alone I got nobody around to talk to or help me 

  • Hi Jasmine! You sound like you're dealing with a LOT. Do you have a safe place you can go to? 

    It sounds like you could use an escape from your surroundings, but to do this you may need to find a friend to stay with. And then it could be good to find a therapist or a friends parent who seems trust-worthy, to help you create steps needed in order to navigate toward the life you'd like to be living. 

    I'm in my 40's but when I was your age, I couldn't make sense of the world.  I had an abusive parent and a cruel boyfriend. I didn't feel as though I had my own voice or was able to take the time needed to understand who I was as an individual. But I soon realised I needed to get far away from individuals who I felt dehumanised, dismissed and disregarded by.  People who treat us without patience or kindness, who don't seek to understand should never be trusted. 

    The whole world has trust issues. And individuals who demand trust rather than seek to earn it, should never be afforded it. My Trust is the most expensive thing I can give or invest in another. I will respect others for free, giving respect is about who I am as a human, not them. But trust is always earned and I do not mind in the least earning another's. 

    Every one of us has a Core Being - our inner self. Some call this the Inner Child, our True Nature - however you'd like to call it. And this true self needs nurturing and protection and help growing into a sort of "becoming". To do that, we first need to find somewhere safe to take time to learn and listen and think. One thing I did which helped when I was about your age was read The Artists Way. If this idea resonates with you, perhaps it will help! If you can't afford it, you may be able to find a PDF online :) 

  • I think, let's start with a hug, and yes I don't do hugs, but that's sounds like what you need.
    Then try and break down what has actually happened.
    I'd suggest once you know what you want try and reconnect with your partner and family in a neutral space.