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29 male struggling

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29 male i Got diagnosed in 2006. I struggle mainly with socialising, anxiety depression, confidence. I say struggle with socialisin but i can quote happily have a conversation if i really have to i just prefer not to. I feel i dont like people but i cam tolerate them and i domt want to be around them. I spend most my time alone at home unless trying to cope in work , i havent really got friends no confedemce to put myself out there to get a girlfriend , no hobbies im pretty simple. I feel like i dont even know who i am. im always in my head, it seems to constantly racing with thoughts I struggle with work keeping a job. I struggle daily. Its draining and i just feel like more should b dome for people with autism diagnosis. More help. I dont know what my point is here does any one feel like this? Can anyone relate 

  • Welcome to the forum. What you describe isn't alien to a lot of people here, and even when life is going well it can turn and suddenly the world feels wrong again.

    So focus on doing the things you enjoy, being yourself and if you don't want to socialise, don't. If you do, call a friend and do something fun together but do it because you want to, not because you feel others think you should.

    Work can be a trickier one, and it's hard to provide reasonable suggestions as obviously everybody's different. There are resources out there to help people, but they're often local in nature and I do agree that it often doesn't feel that support is available.

    Hopefully just sharing your frustrations and thoughts helps :)

  • I'm sorry to hear this! My son is in his mid-20s and has similar struggles. As a mum, it seems young men really need to spend time finding their strengths and purpose in life. Sometime this is simple enough to start by forcing yourself to wake up and exercise 6 days a week. For my son, he notices a massive shift in his well-being from 2 things: Skateboarding with others and taking a daily multi-vitamin (no joke!). Working an exhausting job has helped some days - sometimes we just need a relief from ruminating - LOL.

    Once the pandemic is lifted, can you find a collective you might be interested in? Chess, philosophy, bird watching, foraging, a group who helps clean a park once a week? Community is important for everyone. Even if everyone is doing their own thing while in a group. Nothing you need to commit to. Might be prudent to find something you enjoy :)