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Last day and moving school

ParentingAutism

Hi. I have just been informed that tomorrow is my daughter's last day at the school she's in now. She is moving to a school which specializes in autism on Monday and gradually up her time there. As you can probably imagine, she's happy but upset and so emotional. I'm happy for her but at the same time it's going to be really difficult. 

She only made a friend a few weeks ago and I'm glad she did. She usually doesn't because when she does, she usually has to leave them or they leave her so she is pretty upset about having to leave her. They have each others numbers so they can meet up and stay in touch. She is certainly going to miss the teachers there, because they have helped her so much through this journey and are fun to be around and make her laugh. The school was like a family to her. 

I've told her about the positives and what's going to happen but she is sooo upset about leaving and that it doesn't seem real. I don't know how to make this easier for her because Friday, she is meant to be in school but can't as tomorrow is her last day so she'll be at home. What do I do to make her last day easier? Especially when she walks out that gate for the last time? 

Any ideas/advice are really helpful and appreciated. Thanks x

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  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    It’s the change too we have a harder time than NTs do when it comes to change in routine and environment and just general life changes it might be good to have a conversation about it with her try and reassure her that you are there and her new teachers are there and understand that change is difficult and you’ll do what ever you can help her get used to it.

    Try to remember that we find it difficult to read between the lines too it might be clear to you that you will obviously be there to support her but that might not register in her mind if you know what I mean I know that happens to me a lot 

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  • in reply to O

    I agree. Things pop up everyday all the time. I'm going to see how she goes. She seems fine at the moment and can't wait to go to school in the morning. 

  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    I think you benefit if she speaks to counsellor or therapist that can help her and teach her ways to cope better because life is full of things that sprung up on us from nowhere and that can be worse than being told you moving school... in the nicest possible way :)

  • in reply to O

    Yes, one thing that has triggered her is that they told her that she has a space at the school for September and that it's her last day tomorrow and it was just all so soon and quick and it just shocked her. Just being told it's her last day tomorrow was the biggest shock for her. I believe we have it under control but it will be hard for her, especially Friday because she's not allowed in like normal. 

  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    That’s good well it seems that you have everything in order so it might just be a class of having to ride the wave of her adjusting but keep your eyes open for the positive things that will happen as she starts at the new school so when she has her bad days you have something nice to talk about and don’t lose sight of the bigger picture of her being where she’ll be getting better support and friends she can actually relate too

  • in reply to O

    Yes, she is going to struggle a lot with the change. We are going camping at the weekend so hopefully that should take mind off it a bit. Her senco has told her that she can visit when ever to see them, teachers and her friend, which is lovely. I understand where you are coming from. She understands everyone is there for her but she prefers to be alone and handle it herself. Luckily, she knows she can talk to anyone. Thanks