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11 year old son with high functioning autism

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Hello everyone. I need some help please as we are at a loss.

My son had a good, enjoyable time at school up until last year. He was hard work at home but teachers always reassured us that he was a good student and very popular. 18 months ago he lost it and refused to go to school and to cut a long painful story short he is diagnosed with adhd (on medication) and high functioning autism. We moved him to a small friendly school and he was unable to cope. We have started online learning and he is now refusing to do even 2 hours a day. He says his body won't let him and starts shaking. I don't think this is an act but would be interested to know if any other parents are struggling with getting their child to learn. We are struggling to understand the difference between can't and won't!

Should we back off and let him play on his games all day or keep trying and continue with the high amount of stress on the family.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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  • Won'ts are often for the autistc person's safety, they know what's good and what's bad for them. Once they've been taught one way to learn autism can make them struggle to take an alternative approach. 

    If he has oversensitivity the computer may be overstimulating him, overstimulation leads to coping reactions or closing off. The shaking is certainly a reaction, something about online learning he may find overwhelming.

    Sometimes it's not a matter of what they learn, it matters more how they learn.

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  • Won'ts are often for the autistc person's safety, they know what's good and what's bad for them. Once they've been taught one way to learn autism can make them struggle to take an alternative approach. 

    If he has oversensitivity the computer may be overstimulating him, overstimulation leads to coping reactions or closing off. The shaking is certainly a reaction, something about online learning he may find overwhelming.

    Sometimes it's not a matter of what they learn, it matters more how they learn.

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