Not yet diagnosed

Hi, I have a little 4 year old boy, we are not sure if he has Autism, we have just spoke to his pre-school and health visitor, so far. I was just wondering if anyone would know why when my son is having a meltdown, which more often than not is my fault ( I got upstairs before him or told him no) why he then push’s his dad away and hits out at his dad and wants me.

He will behave like this towards me as well, but more often than not it’s towards his dad.