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Help with mainstream schools?

AngelaD

Hi, I'm pretty new to the site - my son (age 6) was diagnosed with an ASD/prob Aspergers about 6 months ago.  I'm really looking for ideas from people about how to deal with my son's primary school. 

They are aware of his diagnosis and he is "ok" in mainstream school for the time being, but the school are soooo not getting that my son has this diagnosis and is not just a "naughty boy".  He has been suspended 3 times in the last fortnight as he has lashed out when things get to a certain anxiety level, rather than removing him / allowing him to remove himself from the environment the teachers are physically restraining him to a point that he is then terrified so lashes out at them.  They say that there is "no excuse" for his behaviour towards teachers restraining him and so I get called out of work to collect him.

I totally get that the teachers should not be worried about physical harm from a 6yrold but they are making the situation so much worse than it could be and are working on removing all the support we had previously. 

Who do I talk to to get help to make them listen?  At home my son is a loving, wonderful little boy (well...most of the time - he is a 6yrold boy!)  At school he turns into this little monster and I just don't know what to do??

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  • Angela, one simple step is to get the school to create a 'time out' card, a little laminated card that just says something like 'I am finding things too stressful here, please let me leave the class for a bit'. Then your son can just hand it to the teacher or TA without having to explain, and he can leave and sit in a quiet place, preferably with a teaching assistant. My son had one of these and it helped.

    But longer term it sounds like he could do with a statement or at least being officially put on School Action or School Action Plus, which should trigger support from the local authority and the local autism team, assuming they have one (I think they probably have to).

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  • Angela, one simple step is to get the school to create a 'time out' card, a little laminated card that just says something like 'I am finding things too stressful here, please let me leave the class for a bit'. Then your son can just hand it to the teacher or TA without having to explain, and he can leave and sit in a quiet place, preferably with a teaching assistant. My son had one of these and it helped.

    But longer term it sounds like he could do with a statement or at least being officially put on School Action or School Action Plus, which should trigger support from the local authority and the local autism team, assuming they have one (I think they probably have to).

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