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george

My son matthew is 6 years old and is in mainstream school. he has a Statement and gets lots of support from a very nice teaching assistant who is with him most of the time. He seems reasonably happy, however he does not really play with his peers and is falling further and further behind his classmates academically. I recently visited a Special Needs school and was very impressed. I am now beginning to reconsider my earlier decision to keep him in a mainstream school. Although he gets lots of support is he been taught in the correct way, self esteem etc etc does anyone have any views?

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  • I can see the stress my 8 year old is under and I am horrified to be honest. The mainstream school would rather say he is the bully and punish him for all that is happening to him. They know he is autistic but it makes no difference! We have had to make an official complaint about the school not stopping the bullying he is subjected to. All this has done is give them the oportunity to call me unstable and over stressed and say he is the bully and I coached him for his meeting with the quality ofiicer for our school. All I did was ask what the protocoll was and who would be present so I could make him aware and comfortable. I told him to tell the truth and she would be asking about the hitting and kicking and punching he had had and just to tell her what he remembered. It was important to tell so no other kids got hurt and thast no-one was in trouble we all jusy wanted to help. T he officer then confused him totally by saying she wasnt putting words in his mouth but he wasnt that sad by what happends at school was he!!! He did not understand how she could put a word in his mouth and then he was left confused by what she wanted. I phoned to say I was not happy but her report then slated me!!

    I understand there are budget issues but my boy is being hurt in the mainstream system yet the council will not sanction daldaroch as he is high functioning or the other special school as the kids at it are too "damaged"!!

    They wont help and I cant afford to send him myself! I am letting him down.

    We had to withdraw him and his younger brother for a week and home school them while I put in the official complaint to make the school realise we would not put up with their failing any longer. It was rewarding but so tiring. We have no support or outside help.

    I am stuck. I want the best for him but do not know what to do. The other schools in the area are much the same and too far to walk yeet if we decide to change schools we have to get them their ourselves. I would like to move completely yet in this climate where too!!

    Where in scotland does the local council help kids with high functioning asd?? What do I do?? I am at the end of tether I want my son away from this situation but dont want to mess him up more.

    So sorry for going on am just for the first time in my career as mum to 4 totally out of ideas as how to help.

    Any one else feel like this?? Any one have any ideas .... please?

     

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  • I can see the stress my 8 year old is under and I am horrified to be honest. The mainstream school would rather say he is the bully and punish him for all that is happening to him. They know he is autistic but it makes no difference! We have had to make an official complaint about the school not stopping the bullying he is subjected to. All this has done is give them the oportunity to call me unstable and over stressed and say he is the bully and I coached him for his meeting with the quality ofiicer for our school. All I did was ask what the protocoll was and who would be present so I could make him aware and comfortable. I told him to tell the truth and she would be asking about the hitting and kicking and punching he had had and just to tell her what he remembered. It was important to tell so no other kids got hurt and thast no-one was in trouble we all jusy wanted to help. T he officer then confused him totally by saying she wasnt putting words in his mouth but he wasnt that sad by what happends at school was he!!! He did not understand how she could put a word in his mouth and then he was left confused by what she wanted. I phoned to say I was not happy but her report then slated me!!

    I understand there are budget issues but my boy is being hurt in the mainstream system yet the council will not sanction daldaroch as he is high functioning or the other special school as the kids at it are too "damaged"!!

    They wont help and I cant afford to send him myself! I am letting him down.

    We had to withdraw him and his younger brother for a week and home school them while I put in the official complaint to make the school realise we would not put up with their failing any longer. It was rewarding but so tiring. We have no support or outside help.

    I am stuck. I want the best for him but do not know what to do. The other schools in the area are much the same and too far to walk yeet if we decide to change schools we have to get them their ourselves. I would like to move completely yet in this climate where too!!

    Where in scotland does the local council help kids with high functioning asd?? What do I do?? I am at the end of tether I want my son away from this situation but dont want to mess him up more.

    So sorry for going on am just for the first time in my career as mum to 4 totally out of ideas as how to help.

    Any one else feel like this?? Any one have any ideas .... please?

     

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