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george

My son matthew is 6 years old and is in mainstream school. he has a Statement and gets lots of support from a very nice teaching assistant who is with him most of the time. He seems reasonably happy, however he does not really play with his peers and is falling further and further behind his classmates academically. I recently visited a Special Needs school and was very impressed. I am now beginning to reconsider my earlier decision to keep him in a mainstream school. Although he gets lots of support is he been taught in the correct way, self esteem etc etc does anyone have any views?

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  • My brother stopped going to school several years ago, he just could not adjust to the demands of a mainstream secondary school and he threatened to kill my mum on one occasion, armed with a knife - this is how much he did NOT want to go to school. It took over a year before the local authorities would provide him with home schooling, and this was only for several hours a week. Attempts were made to move him to a unit for troubled kids, which was a disaster. A special school was mentioned but my brother - quite rightly, in my opinion - said there was no WAY he would go to a special school. He doesn't see himself as that different to other kids, although he struggles to understand them.

    Luckily he has been blessed with an amazing support worker, who has brought him on in leaps and bounds, and who convinced him to go back to mainstream school. It's taken a year of him going in fits and starts, but he is now 16 and receives the EMA allowance if he attends, and this has tipped the scales for him :) He now attends all lessons, most of the time! He is adamant that he is leaving at the end fo the school year, after sitting the few GCSE's he is being entered for. Hoping he changes his mind - what else would he do with himself without school? He doesn't yet have the relevant social skills to hold down a job, and no self esteem at all....

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  • My brother stopped going to school several years ago, he just could not adjust to the demands of a mainstream secondary school and he threatened to kill my mum on one occasion, armed with a knife - this is how much he did NOT want to go to school. It took over a year before the local authorities would provide him with home schooling, and this was only for several hours a week. Attempts were made to move him to a unit for troubled kids, which was a disaster. A special school was mentioned but my brother - quite rightly, in my opinion - said there was no WAY he would go to a special school. He doesn't see himself as that different to other kids, although he struggles to understand them.

    Luckily he has been blessed with an amazing support worker, who has brought him on in leaps and bounds, and who convinced him to go back to mainstream school. It's taken a year of him going in fits and starts, but he is now 16 and receives the EMA allowance if he attends, and this has tipped the scales for him :) He now attends all lessons, most of the time! He is adamant that he is leaving at the end fo the school year, after sitting the few GCSE's he is being entered for. Hoping he changes his mind - what else would he do with himself without school? He doesn't yet have the relevant social skills to hold down a job, and no self esteem at all....

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