Fed up... Desperate for answers

I am fed up with my daughter's school. I understand that situations pop up and issues and that not everything goes to plan but my daughter is starting to hate some of the teachers. 

Today was another bad day. She had a good first lesson but skipped the second one, stayed onsite at break but after that she got really fed up. She doesn't like a lesson so the senco said that they can do a session together during this lesson. But for the last few weeks she hasn't been there to do it. She's had EXAM's in her office, meetings and today she went to a pupils house which I understand but no one told my daughter. 

Understandably, she got upset and annoyed and didn't go to lesson and jumped the gate. A teacher (the same male one I've been talking about) followed her and they went back to site and when they let her into the dining hall, where she then went back outside and jumped it again straight after she got back, where she called me and asked me to pick her up. 15 minutes later, they went back onsite and a teacher took her to see the animals which calmed her down. She then went into her next lesson (English), which she hasn't been to in ages, and 5 minutes later I picked her up. 

What can I do? I'm getting fed-up with everything. She keeps shouting at teachers, giving them attitude and swearing and becoming very angry... Why can't my daughter just stay onsite where she's safe??? 

Any help is appreciated

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  • Ant tips or ideas on how to handle this. Should I punish her or not? There's no point for her to go to school if she's not going to learn anything.... I'm lost. I feel like a bad parent and that I've failed her. I don't understand her behaviour... Please help, I'm desperate 

  • Hiya - me again.

    She's testing her boundaries and finding there are none.     She is free to do whatever she likes - but lacks the wisdom and self-discipline to do something productive with her freedom.

    I honestly can't see any way forward while she's flexing - I'm thinking that you'll just have to put up with it until she gets bored with it or wakes up and decides to do something useful.

    Does she understand that she will eventually have to grow up?    Do you ask her what are her plans?      What will she be doing in 6 months?   A year?     5 years?    Still messing about?

    I can only suggest that you make sure that she know that you will support her - but she's running herself out of time and sympathy and if she wants to screw her life up, it's up to her - but don't expect people to put up with her crap if she's intent on just messing everyone around.

    Straighten up and fly right......

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  • Hiya - me again.

    She's testing her boundaries and finding there are none.     She is free to do whatever she likes - but lacks the wisdom and self-discipline to do something productive with her freedom.

    I honestly can't see any way forward while she's flexing - I'm thinking that you'll just have to put up with it until she gets bored with it or wakes up and decides to do something useful.

    Does she understand that she will eventually have to grow up?    Do you ask her what are her plans?      What will she be doing in 6 months?   A year?     5 years?    Still messing about?

    I can only suggest that you make sure that she know that you will support her - but she's running herself out of time and sympathy and if she wants to screw her life up, it's up to her - but don't expect people to put up with her crap if she's intent on just messing everyone around.

    Straighten up and fly right......

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