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DLA HELP AND FRUSTRATION HELP

AHume

My 4 year old recently got diagnosed with Autism. I immediately started searching for therapy sessions and started to fill in her DLA forms to cover the cost of these sessions as i know they aren't cheap. But I hear she is entitled to some therapy sessions!!!

Firstly I have a few questions to ask if anyone knows any advice or answers to these - 

1. Are children entitled to any therapy after diagnosed? If so what are they entitled too?

2. Whilst filling in the DLA form we are still awaiting written confirmation letter of her diagnosis is it best to wait for the letter to come out or can I just add to the forms the pediatricians contact details etc and write "awaiting written confirmation letter of diagnosis"

Also regarding the behaviour. She gets frustrated quite easily. She has some speech delay although she has come on leaps and bounds. We still struggle with the emotion side of things. If she's playing and something keeps falling apart she does a loud scream although it doesn't turn into a meltdown it's the fact she even screams in the first place. Then 5 seconds later she is over it !! We shares lovely with us adults but struggles and gets annoyed if she has to share with peers and children around her age. 

Is there any advice in this area? How can we calm her down or teach her other ways to vent instead of just screaming when adverts come on when she's watching YouTube or if she can't open something she screams. Etc

Also any way with words we can use with her when she's playing with her cousins to help her share.

Thankyou in advance 

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  • there is no "normal" person inside an autistic one. we are different, with unique strengths and weaknesses. was does happen when you attempt to "calm down" an autistic person is that they learn to suppress their autism, which is known as autistic masking or camaflouging. and this always results in severe mental health problems later in life. here's a link:

    https://www.healthline.com/health/autism/autism-masking#bottom-line

    what you could try doing is adjusting your daughters environment rather than the person.... and they can then go on to live happy, fulfilling and slightly different lives. so i'd recommend letting her scream, it's likely a "stimming"  response to sensory and emotional overload. it is good, as it is a core element of autistic self regulation. i'd also recommend finding a autistic parents support group, as parenting an autistic kid can be vastly different to parenting a non autistic one.

    autistic people find sharing very challenging at any age so shouldn't be forced to do so as it's very stressful, they have a strong sense of possessions. there is also a concept known as double empathy which means autistic people and non autistic people have an "understanding" barrier emotionally and can't understand each other - this may include between you and her. so to help her make friends try find her other people on the spectrum who are her age.

    i do hope this helps!

  • in reply to NAS72895

    although in theory you could teach her to use other stimming outlets such as rocking or hand flapping. i just suspect at her age that will be next to impossible and definitely very stressful for her.

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